Hi. I literally cannot orgasm, ever, with any type of sex. The only time I orgasm is with masturbating using a vibrator, not even with my fingers. Up until recently I had lied to my BF that I orgasmed during sex (I’ve only lied like 3-4 times).
I know I shouldn’t lie and he mentioned he was a little upset by that so I’m going to stop lying. I just literally can’t orgasm. It also doesn’t help that he is asking/saying things the whole time during sex like “did you cum yet?…. I want you to cum for me..” . Trust me I WANT to cum for him… and for myself… but literally I have no sensation down there (I do think I have a good sex drive/libido, just poor clitoral sensation)
We tried using the vibrator during sex but I dont think I relaxed enough and he mentioned how it threw him off or something (even though he was supportive with using it) so i got in my head and was just too stressed about it.
All this to say- it just stresses me out that he takes it personally that I can’t orgasm. I don’t get why when it has nothing to do with him and all to do with my body not “working as it should.” I enjoy our sex a lot and it’s really good I just can’t cum.
I’m very insecure and embarrassed about it and it just makes me wonder if this would be a deal breaker. So for the men out there, would this be a deal breaker if your GF has issues orgasming, but she still has a good sex drive and never turns down a good time?
TL;DR- stopped lying to my (F) partner (M) about the fact I never orgasm. He was a little bit upset about it but now I am embarrassed/stressed and worried he won’t want to be with me long-term because of the fact that I don’t orgasm with our sex and he takes it personally. Is this a deal breaker for men?
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r/sex Hi. I literally cannot orgasm, ever, with any type of sex. The only time I orgasm is with masturbating using a vibrator, not even with my fingers. Up until recently I had lied to my BF that I orgasmed during sex (I’ve only lied like 3-4 times). I know I shouldn’t lie and he mentioned he was a little upset by that so I’m going to stop lying. I just literally can’t orgasm. It also doesn’t help that he is asking/saying things the whole time during sex like “did you cum yet?…. I want you to cum for me..” . Trust me I WANT to cum for him… and for myself… but literally I have no sensation down there (I do think I have a good sex drive/libido, just poor clitoral sensation) We tried using the vibrator during sex but I dont think I relaxed enough and he mentioned how it threw him off or something (even though he was supportive with using it) so i got in my head and was just too stressed about it. All this to say- it just stresses me out that he takes it personally that I can’t orgasm. I don’t get why when it has nothing to do with him and all to do with my body not “working as it should.” I enjoy our sex a lot and it’s really good I just can’t cum. I’m very insecure and embarrassed about it and it just makes me wonder if this would be a deal breaker. So for the men out there, would this be a deal breaker if your GF has issues orgasming, but she still has a good sex drive and never turns down a good time? TL;DR- stopped lying to my (F) partner (M) about the fact I never orgasm. He was a little bit upset about it but now I am embarrassed/stressed and worried he won’t want to be with me long-term because of the fact that I don’t orgasm with our sex and he takes it personally. Is this a deal breaker for men? submitted by /u/yeezymoneybaby [link] [comments]
Hi. I literally cannot orgasm, ever, with any type of sex. The only time I orgasm is with masturbating using a vibrator, not even with my fingers. Up until recently I had lied to my BF that I orgasmed during sex (I’ve only lied like 3-4 times).
I know I shouldn’t lie and he mentioned he was a little upset by that so I’m going to stop lying. I just literally can’t orgasm. It also doesn’t help that he is asking/saying things the whole time during sex like “did you cum yet?…. I want you to cum for me..” . Trust me I WANT to cum for him… and for myself… but literally I have no sensation down there (I do think I have a good sex drive/libido, just poor clitoral sensation)
We tried using the vibrator during sex but I dont think I relaxed enough and he mentioned how it threw him off or something (even though he was supportive with using it) so i got in my head and was just too stressed about it.
All this to say- it just stresses me out that he takes it personally that I can’t orgasm. I don’t get why when it has nothing to do with him and all to do with my body not “working as it should.” I enjoy our sex a lot and it’s really good I just can’t cum.
I’m very insecure and embarrassed about it and it just makes me wonder if this would be a deal breaker. So for the men out there, would this be a deal breaker if your GF has issues orgasming, but she still has a good sex drive and never turns down a good time?
TL;DR- stopped lying to my (F) partner (M) about the fact I never orgasm. He was a little bit upset about it but now I am embarrassed/stressed and worried he won’t want to be with me long-term because of the fact that I don’t orgasm with our sex and he takes it personally. Is this a deal breaker for men?
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