Husband feels “weird” I’m using his penis-mold dildo for anal and wants me to stop. /u/imgonnaargueaboutit Sex

Hi all. As title explains. I’m (28,F) extremely into anal, but my husband (30) isn’t. We did it one time and he somehow “didn’t notice” he was in my ass, but he moaned and came hard.

I like to feel dominated, degraded, etc. which he says he’s into, and he feels anal is very dominating. But he can’t get over how much “work” goes into doing it, so he won’t do it.

However, I do anal play whenever I masturbate. I need it. And since he won’t have sex with me anally, to get the effect, I started using the dildo we had made from a mold, so it’s off his penis. I showed him how I can handle it, he can fit, etc.

He responded by telling me he’s uncomfortable I’m using that specific dildo for anal. He wants me to stop using that one and use another one. The problem is I CRAVE that one because I crave HIM and that dildo is the closest I can get.

Should I stop using it? Or just not tell him I’m using it anymore? Is it violating him if I keep using it?

Edit: he says it’s “the work” but I’m fully convinced he just thinks it’s gross. Whenever we sit down and truly talk about it, he gets hung up on the fact you go #2 out of there.

Hi all. As title explains. I’m (28,F) extremely into anal, but my husband (30) isn’t. We did it one time and he somehow “didn’t notice” he was in my ass, but he moaned and came hard.

I like to feel dominated, degraded, etc. which he says he’s into, and he feels anal is very dominating. But he can’t get over how much “work” goes into doing it, so he won’t do it.

However, I do anal play whenever I masturbate. I need it. And since he won’t have sex with me anally, to get the effect, I started using the dildo we had made from a mold, so it’s off his penis. I showed him how I can handle it, he can fit, etc.

He responded by telling me he’s uncomfortable I’m using that specific dildo for anal. He wants me to stop using that one and use another one. The problem is I CRAVE that one because I crave HIM and that dildo is the closest I can get.

Should I stop using it? Or just not tell him I’m using it anymore? Is it violating him if I keep using it?

Edit: he says it’s “the work” but I’m fully convinced he just thinks it’s gross. Whenever we sit down and truly talk about it, he gets hung up on the fact you go #2 out of there.