What’s wrong with my libido? /u/AigleDuDesert Sex

Hey,

I am a 30 years old male and I am having an issue with my libido over the last few years, I don’t know what to do anymore or if it’s normal.

I feel like I have 0 desire for sex, my erections are very weak, porn doesn’t even excite me. I can go a week without masturbating and it won’t be much of an issue, most of the time I just watch porn to check if my penis still works, but it’s difficult to maintain the erection and it’s not very firm. It was not like that before.

I did a blood test and my testosterone is great it’s even above the upper range (900 ng/dL), I go to the gym daily, I am not overweigh and eat healthy.

I suspect a few things, I took some finasteride (propecia) 2 years ago for hair loss but it was a very low dose every 2/3 days and only the topical form (never ingested a single tablet), so it might be the cause, I have read a lot of horror stories about it.

The other thing could be that maybe I am depressed and I don’t know it? It’s very strange I live alone far away from my home country, and whenever I go back to my parents place my libido improves by a lot, my erections are still not 100% but I become very horny. I am quite isolated here, I have some friends but I literally see 0 girls, I work from home all the time.

Other weird thing, sometimes when I feel like I have a chance with a girl, or if there is an insanely attractive girl in front of me my libido just kicks in and I have an instant boner, which contrasts a lot with the inability to have an errection when I watch porn. I also noticed that that if a girl takes interest in me my libido greatly improves. The rare few times I was kind of dating a girl over the last few years I was having random boners again and a better libido.

Which brings me to my last point, can you lose your libido due to social isolation or when you don’t have enough interaction with the opposite sex, or even when you have been single for a long time? I am now scared that when I meet a girl I won’t be able to perform, it’s been 4 years I did not have sex and maybe propecia destroyed my libido, I keep thinking and stressing over this now.

What are your thoughts?

Hey,

I am a 30 years old male and I am having an issue with my libido over the last few years, I don’t know what to do anymore or if it’s normal.

I feel like I have 0 desire for sex, my erections are very weak, porn doesn’t even excite me. I can go a week without masturbating and it won’t be much of an issue, most of the time I just watch porn to check if my penis still works, but it’s difficult to maintain the erection and it’s not very firm. It was not like that before.

I did a blood test and my testosterone is great it’s even above the upper range (900 ng/dL), I go to the gym daily, I am not overweigh and eat healthy.

I suspect a few things, I took some finasteride (propecia) 2 years ago for hair loss but it was a very low dose every 2/3 days and only the topical form (never ingested a single tablet), so it might be the cause, I have read a lot of horror stories about it.

The other thing could be that maybe I am depressed and I don’t know it? It’s very strange I live alone far away from my home country, and whenever I go back to my parents place my libido improves by a lot, my erections are still not 100% but I become very horny. I am quite isolated here, I have some friends but I literally see 0 girls, I work from home all the time.

Other weird thing, sometimes when I feel like I have a chance with a girl, or if there is an insanely attractive girl in front of me my libido just kicks in and I have an instant boner, which contrasts a lot with the inability to have an errection when I watch porn. I also noticed that that if a girl takes interest in me my libido greatly improves. The rare few times I was kind of dating a girl over the last few years I was having random boners again and a better libido.

Which brings me to my last point, can you lose your libido due to social isolation or when you don’t have enough interaction with the opposite sex, or even when you have been single for a long time? I am now scared that when I meet a girl I won’t be able to perform, it’s been 4 years I did not have sex and maybe propecia destroyed my libido, I keep thinking and stressing over this now.

What are your thoughts?