I (20M) may have gone too far & too rough & overstimulated/done something wrong with the new girl (25F) I’m talking to (?) /u/applesandshenanigans Sex

Met this girl (will call her Abby) 3 weeks ago. Gone on 3 dates prior to this story I’m about to mention, she’d stayed over all 3 times but nothing more than kissing.

Fast forward to this weekend & we’d made plans that she’d come & chill at me for a little while as my sister & I were having some friends over. She arrived later in the night & she’d already been drinking since 11am so we were pretty drunk & just wanting each other.

We were outside partying for around an hour or two & by then it was 11pm so we made our way to my room (my sister was the “host” as we share a place & she’d invited her mates, didn’t just disappear from my own party).

We got to my room & were kissing & touching each other & then I started kissing her neck & feeling my way down her body & she reciprocated by getting on top of me etc. I took her shirt off & laid her down on her back & worked my way down to her vagina.

Now I didn’t want to be a “one-pump-chump” & leave her unsatisfied if I finished quick so I wanted to make sure she had orgasmed once or twice before anything further so I went down on her for a good few minutes, probably like 10-15 as I fucking love it.

I like to think I’m fairly good & accustomed with the female anatomy so I knew exactly where the clit & clit hood was, g spot & everything. I began going at it & felt her clit get harder & harder as she became more turned on so I continued to rub on it. She wasn’t a fake moaner either as she only ever took a deep breathe/moan etc when I know I was rubbing over the clit so I believe she was enjoying it. So I started rubbing it harder & harder (maybe too much pressure in hindsight but her body language suggested she liked it).

I started ‘sucking’ on her vagina lips & fingering her while caressing her breasts & whatnot. She seemed to love it.

& eventually she literally just said “uh uh” lifted me up & asked for T-shirt & I’m so lost. She went extremely cold after that. I know guys turn into vegetables after cumming but not girls (or atleast to my knowledge).

She didn’t want to cuddle, didn’t want to kiss & I was confused so I just went back outside to join the party. 1 hour later I came back to bed & she was still awake but eyes closed etc & she was still cold to me. Another hour passed & she just rolled over & started cuddling me again like nothing had happened. When I came back initially I asked her whether I did something wrong & said “I’ve got thick skin so you can be honest” & she continuously said “nothing is wrong”… I then said “what did you want” & she brushed her arm against mine implying she wanted me to fuck her presumably so I said “we were getting there we still can” & she said “it’s too late”. That makes sense – mood was gone so fair enough but I’m lost as to why she let the mood go to start with & what I did wrong.

Today we woke up & all was seemingly okay. We went to go get food & cuddled watching a movie but she just wouldn’t kiss me? Even when she left she didn’t give me a kiss goodbye which was strange… maybe my breathe wasn’t appealing after the night of drinking but I had had gum & all in the morning.

All of this has just left me a little dumbfounded… my sister jokingly said “maybe you bit her vagina & hurt her” (my sister & I talk abt everything) jokingly but now it’s starting to concern me as I was sucking her outer lips more aggressively as she fed into my movement.

I suppose the only true answer would come from her of course but I just wanted any advice from any females? Is it possible I was too rough on the clitoris & overstimulated her leaving her uninterested? Maybe she was drunk & realised she’s not ready for this yet (she got out of a 6 year relationship 2 months ago so I assume I would’ve been the first sexual encounter post-relationship which would justify the changing of mind if that’s the case)? Is it possible I made her cum & she just became a “vegetable” like guys do after orgasming? Would it make sense that I did something wrong & she just shut up shop?

So many questions & so much confusion. I wanna ask her again & just be like “what happened last night” but don’t want to make something out of nothing if she really meant that “nothing’s wrong”.

& lastly, on Friday she said we can do something again Monday night after Saturday but now she’s said she’s going out for drinks with work colleagues so won’t make it… just seemed to have a complete shift within the space of 10 minutes last night & I don’t know why?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all.

TL;DR: went down on a girl & she just went cold immediately & stopped me. Not sure what I did wrong.

EDIT: This is a pretty important part I somehow forgot to mention I see. When I initially asked her what’s wrong she didn’t immediately say “nothing is wrong” if I remember correctly. She either said “you gave me a headache” or “I have a headache”. (Memories a little fuzzy after all that tequila but she said she had a headache which is why she stopped it). Then I asked her “why” or “how” & she said “think about it”, & that was that. That’s what made my mind initially go to me overstimulation or doing something wrong that she didn’t like.

Met this girl (will call her Abby) 3 weeks ago. Gone on 3 dates prior to this story I’m about to mention, she’d stayed over all 3 times but nothing more than kissing.

Fast forward to this weekend & we’d made plans that she’d come & chill at me for a little while as my sister & I were having some friends over. She arrived later in the night & she’d already been drinking since 11am so we were pretty drunk & just wanting each other.

We were outside partying for around an hour or two & by then it was 11pm so we made our way to my room (my sister was the “host” as we share a place & she’d invited her mates, didn’t just disappear from my own party).

We got to my room & were kissing & touching each other & then I started kissing her neck & feeling my way down her body & she reciprocated by getting on top of me etc. I took her shirt off & laid her down on her back & worked my way down to her vagina.

Now I didn’t want to be a “one-pump-chump” & leave her unsatisfied if I finished quick so I wanted to make sure she had orgasmed once or twice before anything further so I went down on her for a good few minutes, probably like 10-15 as I fucking love it.

I like to think I’m fairly good & accustomed with the female anatomy so I knew exactly where the clit & clit hood was, g spot & everything. I began going at it & felt her clit get harder & harder as she became more turned on so I continued to rub on it. She wasn’t a fake moaner either as she only ever took a deep breathe/moan etc when I know I was rubbing over the clit so I believe she was enjoying it. So I started rubbing it harder & harder (maybe too much pressure in hindsight but her body language suggested she liked it).

I started ‘sucking’ on her vagina lips & fingering her while caressing her breasts & whatnot. She seemed to love it.

& eventually she literally just said “uh uh” lifted me up & asked for T-shirt & I’m so lost. She went extremely cold after that. I know guys turn into vegetables after cumming but not girls (or atleast to my knowledge).

She didn’t want to cuddle, didn’t want to kiss & I was confused so I just went back outside to join the party. 1 hour later I came back to bed & she was still awake but eyes closed etc & she was still cold to me. Another hour passed & she just rolled over & started cuddling me again like nothing had happened. When I came back initially I asked her whether I did something wrong & said “I’ve got thick skin so you can be honest” & she continuously said “nothing is wrong”… I then said “what did you want” & she brushed her arm against mine implying she wanted me to fuck her presumably so I said “we were getting there we still can” & she said “it’s too late”. That makes sense – mood was gone so fair enough but I’m lost as to why she let the mood go to start with & what I did wrong.

Today we woke up & all was seemingly okay. We went to go get food & cuddled watching a movie but she just wouldn’t kiss me? Even when she left she didn’t give me a kiss goodbye which was strange… maybe my breathe wasn’t appealing after the night of drinking but I had had gum & all in the morning.

All of this has just left me a little dumbfounded… my sister jokingly said “maybe you bit her vagina & hurt her” (my sister & I talk abt everything) jokingly but now it’s starting to concern me as I was sucking her outer lips more aggressively as she fed into my movement.

I suppose the only true answer would come from her of course but I just wanted any advice from any females? Is it possible I was too rough on the clitoris & overstimulated her leaving her uninterested? Maybe she was drunk & realised she’s not ready for this yet (she got out of a 6 year relationship 2 months ago so I assume I would’ve been the first sexual encounter post-relationship which would justify the changing of mind if that’s the case)? Is it possible I made her cum & she just became a “vegetable” like guys do after orgasming? Would it make sense that I did something wrong & she just shut up shop?

So many questions & so much confusion. I wanna ask her again & just be like “what happened last night” but don’t want to make something out of nothing if she really meant that “nothing’s wrong”.

& lastly, on Friday she said we can do something again Monday night after Saturday but now she’s said she’s going out for drinks with work colleagues so won’t make it… just seemed to have a complete shift within the space of 10 minutes last night & I don’t know why?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all.

TL;DR: went down on a girl & she just went cold immediately & stopped me. Not sure what I did wrong.

EDIT: This is a pretty important part I somehow forgot to mention I see. When I initially asked her what’s wrong she didn’t immediately say “nothing is wrong” if I remember correctly. She either said “you gave me a headache” or “I have a headache”. (Memories a little fuzzy after all that tequila but she said she had a headache which is why she stopped it). Then I asked her “why” or “how” & she said “think about it”, & that was that. That’s what made my mind initially go to me overstimulation or doing something wrong that she didn’t like.