Hey everyone,
I’d be happy if you could let me know what you think about my case. So my girlfriend (LL) and I (HL) have been together for like two years, had a lot of sex in the beginning, been decreasing gradually ever since. For some reason, there’ve been periods in time where we had a lot of sex and then no sex for a couple weeks. Since we’ve moved together, it’s been even worse. Since the start of our relationship, or rather a couple months in, we’ve had quite a few fights about it, obviously me being frustrated about our irregular sex life and her thinking I don’t understand that she just isn’t in the mood right now (which isn’t the case). We’ve last slept together at the end of December. After she told me how little her desire for sex was (at that point in time), I decided to stop bothering her with it, making things worse with my high sex drive. So I stopped touching her intimate parts and quit “bothering” her with sex. Obviously I did that to get her regain her desire to have sex, feel that excitement again. My girlfriend is under a lot of stress due to university lately and that’s not exactly helping. She also got off birth control in early December, one of the reasons being her low libido.
She told me she is getting stressed when we kiss, because she feels that I want it to go further. She’s even stressed when my dick is hard, because she feels like she has to satisty me. So the way I see it is that she’s so in her head rather than focusing on what’s great about having sex and bonding. It’s not like she’s dissatisfied with our sex or anything – she’s repeatedly confirmed it’s great for her as well and actually does dream about us having sex, telling me the next morning. Some of her dreams are me not wanting to have sex and rejecting her, but she does. Basically the opposite of real life, since I could go at it a few times a day if required, but she’s barely in the mood. How do we overcome this, what do you suggest? Should I talk to her again? How can Thelp her to stop thinking about sex negatively? Thank you for your help!
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r/sex Hey everyone, I’d be happy if you could let me know what you think about my case. So my girlfriend (LL) and I (HL) have been together for like two years, had a lot of sex in the beginning, been decreasing gradually ever since. For some reason, there’ve been periods in time where we had a lot of sex and then no sex for a couple weeks. Since we’ve moved together, it’s been even worse. Since the start of our relationship, or rather a couple months in, we’ve had quite a few fights about it, obviously me being frustrated about our irregular sex life and her thinking I don’t understand that she just isn’t in the mood right now (which isn’t the case). We’ve last slept together at the end of December. After she told me how little her desire for sex was (at that point in time), I decided to stop bothering her with it, making things worse with my high sex drive. So I stopped touching her intimate parts and quit “bothering” her with sex. Obviously I did that to get her regain her desire to have sex, feel that excitement again. My girlfriend is under a lot of stress due to university lately and that’s not exactly helping. She also got off birth control in early December, one of the reasons being her low libido. She told me she is getting stressed when we kiss, because she feels that I want it to go further. She’s even stressed when my dick is hard, because she feels like she has to satisty me. So the way I see it is that she’s so in her head rather than focusing on what’s great about having sex and bonding. It’s not like she’s dissatisfied with our sex or anything – she’s repeatedly confirmed it’s great for her as well and actually does dream about us having sex, telling me the next morning. Some of her dreams are me not wanting to have sex and rejecting her, but she does. Basically the opposite of real life, since I could go at it a few times a day if required, but she’s barely in the mood. How do we overcome this, what do you suggest? Should I talk to her again? How can Thelp her to stop thinking about sex negatively? Thank you for your help! submitted by /u/SwishJus [link] [comments]
Hey everyone,
I’d be happy if you could let me know what you think about my case. So my girlfriend (LL) and I (HL) have been together for like two years, had a lot of sex in the beginning, been decreasing gradually ever since. For some reason, there’ve been periods in time where we had a lot of sex and then no sex for a couple weeks. Since we’ve moved together, it’s been even worse. Since the start of our relationship, or rather a couple months in, we’ve had quite a few fights about it, obviously me being frustrated about our irregular sex life and her thinking I don’t understand that she just isn’t in the mood right now (which isn’t the case). We’ve last slept together at the end of December. After she told me how little her desire for sex was (at that point in time), I decided to stop bothering her with it, making things worse with my high sex drive. So I stopped touching her intimate parts and quit “bothering” her with sex. Obviously I did that to get her regain her desire to have sex, feel that excitement again. My girlfriend is under a lot of stress due to university lately and that’s not exactly helping. She also got off birth control in early December, one of the reasons being her low libido.
She told me she is getting stressed when we kiss, because she feels that I want it to go further. She’s even stressed when my dick is hard, because she feels like she has to satisty me. So the way I see it is that she’s so in her head rather than focusing on what’s great about having sex and bonding. It’s not like she’s dissatisfied with our sex or anything – she’s repeatedly confirmed it’s great for her as well and actually does dream about us having sex, telling me the next morning. Some of her dreams are me not wanting to have sex and rejecting her, but she does. Basically the opposite of real life, since I could go at it a few times a day if required, but she’s barely in the mood. How do we overcome this, what do you suggest? Should I talk to her again? How can Thelp her to stop thinking about sex negatively? Thank you for your help!
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