Friend sent me a dick pic a few days after I I told him I was on a break with my bf /u/BananasNMuffins Sex

I (31F) decided to go on a break with my bf of 5 years. I love him but our relationship is really toxic. I needed space from him so I could work on myself more. I’m doing a lot of trauma therapy and our relationship issues have been getting in the way of that. We decided even though we’re on a break, we are still in a relationship and seeing other people isn’t allowed.

The last 2.5 months apart there have been a couple of guys from my past that have tried hitting me up. I shut that shit down really fast though, until tonight. I’ve stayed good friends with a few of one of my ex bfs friends. I’ve developed a deeper friendship with one of those guys in particular. Over the last 6 years we’ve randomly hit each other up a few times a year. Most of our conversations have been pretty deep. We’ve talked a lot about our relationship issues, mental health issues, work/financial issues, etc. It’s turned into a friendship I really value. The degree of honesty we’ve had about our lives has been really refreshing.

The other day he text me to see how I was doing and I told him about my relationship break and some of the things that led to that decision. By the end of the conversation he asked me if he could come visit me some time soon (we live multiple states apart). I told him i was going through too much right now but some time in the future would be cool to see him. He said he understood and told me to reach out if I ever needed someone. Fast forward to tonight, 3 days later, he sent me a dick picture out of no where and a message pretty much saying we could keep things secret if I was interested and to let him know. I haven’t responded back to him.

I’m really not wanting to cheat on my bf but I would be lying if I said the photo didn’t make me excited. I’m really not sure how to emotionally handle these conflicting feelings I’m having. This might be the only unsolicited dick picture I’ve felt even slightly happy about receiving. Lol I’m really not sure what to respond back to him though and I don’t want whatever I say to come back and bite me in the ass. I don’t want to be a total jerk about it though, cause if things don’t work out with my bf it’s possible I would be interested in going farther.

Any advice on how to handle this would be helpful. I am not really sure how to respond to this.

Thanks in advance.

I (31F) decided to go on a break with my bf of 5 years. I love him but our relationship is really toxic. I needed space from him so I could work on myself more. I’m doing a lot of trauma therapy and our relationship issues have been getting in the way of that. We decided even though we’re on a break, we are still in a relationship and seeing other people isn’t allowed.

The last 2.5 months apart there have been a couple of guys from my past that have tried hitting me up. I shut that shit down really fast though, until tonight. I’ve stayed good friends with a few of one of my ex bfs friends. I’ve developed a deeper friendship with one of those guys in particular. Over the last 6 years we’ve randomly hit each other up a few times a year. Most of our conversations have been pretty deep. We’ve talked a lot about our relationship issues, mental health issues, work/financial issues, etc. It’s turned into a friendship I really value. The degree of honesty we’ve had about our lives has been really refreshing.

The other day he text me to see how I was doing and I told him about my relationship break and some of the things that led to that decision. By the end of the conversation he asked me if he could come visit me some time soon (we live multiple states apart). I told him i was going through too much right now but some time in the future would be cool to see him. He said he understood and told me to reach out if I ever needed someone. Fast forward to tonight, 3 days later, he sent me a dick picture out of no where and a message pretty much saying we could keep things secret if I was interested and to let him know. I haven’t responded back to him.

I’m really not wanting to cheat on my bf but I would be lying if I said the photo didn’t make me excited. I’m really not sure how to emotionally handle these conflicting feelings I’m having. This might be the only unsolicited dick picture I’ve felt even slightly happy about receiving. Lol I’m really not sure what to respond back to him though and I don’t want whatever I say to come back and bite me in the ass. I don’t want to be a total jerk about it though, cause if things don’t work out with my bf it’s possible I would be interested in going farther.

Any advice on how to handle this would be helpful. I am not really sure how to respond to this.

Thanks in advance.