Sexual shame and practical steps I can take towards overcoming it? /u/Independent_Job_6157 Sex

Good evening, I’ll just dive into it, I am fairly ashamed of my sexuality and I don’t talk about it with anyone. I almost never sleep with people, and 90% of my sexual experience comes from paying for sex when the urges become too strong.

I struggle to have sex entirely because of my personality – I’m 6’2 and in pretty great shape, but I cannot show my sexuality around other people and cannot make conversation flirtatious (because the idea of someone seeing me as a sexual creature is awful).

I have been in therapy for the last year and only managed to start talking about it yesterday. That said, while talking about it is great, I doubt I will find meaningful improvement without some practical steps. Does anyone have any suggestions of some practical things I can do – even if I find them difficult – that might help me to overcome my sexual shame and develop a slightly more healthy sex life?

Before anyone asks – I am 25M, I am not gay (trust me, I’ve tried and hated it), and I’m 99% certain it comes from my upbringing and childhood.

Thanks in advance 🙂

Good evening, I’ll just dive into it, I am fairly ashamed of my sexuality and I don’t talk about it with anyone. I almost never sleep with people, and 90% of my sexual experience comes from paying for sex when the urges become too strong.

I struggle to have sex entirely because of my personality – I’m 6’2 and in pretty great shape, but I cannot show my sexuality around other people and cannot make conversation flirtatious (because the idea of someone seeing me as a sexual creature is awful).

I have been in therapy for the last year and only managed to start talking about it yesterday. That said, while talking about it is great, I doubt I will find meaningful improvement without some practical steps. Does anyone have any suggestions of some practical things I can do – even if I find them difficult – that might help me to overcome my sexual shame and develop a slightly more healthy sex life?

Before anyone asks – I am 25M, I am not gay (trust me, I’ve tried and hated it), and I’m 99% certain it comes from my upbringing and childhood.

Thanks in advance 🙂