My girlfriend does not usually enjoy sex and hardly ever cums. I am very selfish and often “think with my d***”. /u/wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwa26 Sex

So I have been with this girl for a year now, 19F and 22M. I am very into her, I think she is incredibly naturally beautiful and I love her body. We have talked all about my fantasies in great detail and she can do a good job of fulfilling them. Basically she knows what I like and how to please me. We have talked about her fantasies to a lesser extent and it definitely does not work the other way around.

In the beginning she could never cum and we mostly chalked it up to nerves, me having a higher libido and her getting sensitive and stopping and starting, we always have these stupid excuses.

Through time she has cum occasionally (we even came together once) but still she usually does not. Sometimes we agree that it is ok, she had so much fun and feels very satisfied. She assures me she does not always need to cum. But most of the time it is clear that she starts to lose interest halfway through, at which point I will usually be very horny and into it, and feel a great need to cum. So…. instead of stopping like I probably should, I let things happen. Sometimes I will try to get her back into it to no avail but sometimes I will just let her keep going even though she is bored, because she feels bad for me and wants to get me to cum so she can stop. She admitted recently that sex can feel like a chore. The sooner she can get me to cum the sooner it can be over so we can do something else.

She thinks I’m hot and I can definitely turn her on and get her going and make her feel good in all the ways you can think of, I can see that. But still she gets bored all the time or gets me horny without really wanting to do anything, and I do not know what to do about it.

I can do some of the things she is into / things that get her going but usually she tells me she doesnt want those things, like I really enjoy making her feel good and giving her love and attention and hearing her moans, and I will tell her that and sometimes practically beg her to let me use the lush toys or touch her. I know I can do more here, like during sex I can do the things she likes, I can focus more on her instead of just myself. But at the same time she never ever knows what she wants. If I start talking about what I could do for her, or what I want to do to her, she starts thinking very heavily and inevitably loses all interest. Her low self esteem and insecurities tie into this I am sure.

This has all sort of caused us to get stuck in this unspoken idea that getting her to enjoy it and especially getting her to cum is a lost cause so we should just focus on me instead… then when i do focus on her and do things she enjoys, that obviously adds pressure on her and she gets insecure and starts overthinking and she still cannot cum. With all the right foreplay and all the attention on her she probably still cannot cum. Sometimes she goes away after sex and keeps masturbating, where she is then able to cum a lot easier.

At the end of the day while I often need to cum, that does not mean I enjoy it that much. Deep down with a clear head I only enjoy it as much as she does, and I always feel very guilty and regretful after getting her to make me cum. Feels like she is my personal porn star sometimes.

So I have been with this girl for a year now, 19F and 22M. I am very into her, I think she is incredibly naturally beautiful and I love her body. We have talked all about my fantasies in great detail and she can do a good job of fulfilling them. Basically she knows what I like and how to please me. We have talked about her fantasies to a lesser extent and it definitely does not work the other way around.

In the beginning she could never cum and we mostly chalked it up to nerves, me having a higher libido and her getting sensitive and stopping and starting, we always have these stupid excuses.

Through time she has cum occasionally (we even came together once) but still she usually does not. Sometimes we agree that it is ok, she had so much fun and feels very satisfied. She assures me she does not always need to cum. But most of the time it is clear that she starts to lose interest halfway through, at which point I will usually be very horny and into it, and feel a great need to cum. So…. instead of stopping like I probably should, I let things happen. Sometimes I will try to get her back into it to no avail but sometimes I will just let her keep going even though she is bored, because she feels bad for me and wants to get me to cum so she can stop. She admitted recently that sex can feel like a chore. The sooner she can get me to cum the sooner it can be over so we can do something else.

She thinks I’m hot and I can definitely turn her on and get her going and make her feel good in all the ways you can think of, I can see that. But still she gets bored all the time or gets me horny without really wanting to do anything, and I do not know what to do about it.

I can do some of the things she is into / things that get her going but usually she tells me she doesnt want those things, like I really enjoy making her feel good and giving her love and attention and hearing her moans, and I will tell her that and sometimes practically beg her to let me use the lush toys or touch her. I know I can do more here, like during sex I can do the things she likes, I can focus more on her instead of just myself. But at the same time she never ever knows what she wants. If I start talking about what I could do for her, or what I want to do to her, she starts thinking very heavily and inevitably loses all interest. Her low self esteem and insecurities tie into this I am sure.

This has all sort of caused us to get stuck in this unspoken idea that getting her to enjoy it and especially getting her to cum is a lost cause so we should just focus on me instead… then when i do focus on her and do things she enjoys, that obviously adds pressure on her and she gets insecure and starts overthinking and she still cannot cum. With all the right foreplay and all the attention on her she probably still cannot cum. Sometimes she goes away after sex and keeps masturbating, where she is then able to cum a lot easier.

At the end of the day while I often need to cum, that does not mean I enjoy it that much. Deep down with a clear head I only enjoy it as much as she does, and I always feel very guilty and regretful after getting her to make me cum. Feels like she is my personal porn star sometimes.