My boyfriend wants me to sleep with other guys bc it turns him on to hear about, is this a trap? /u/Kindly_Butterfly_879 Sex

So, my long distance boyfriend (25m) who l’ve (22f) been on and off with for about 3 1/2 years and only long distance with for a few months just started asking me to explore some kinks and I’m really torn.

I was a virgin when I met him, and he made me feel super safe, listened to me, and like any couple, we pretty much have done everything together and know what each other likes.

We took a break in the middle of our relationship and hooked up with other people and it was hard on me because I’m a pretty jealous person. He also didn’t take it well that I was hooking up with other guys but got over it quickly. Recently he just told me that he’s turned on by hearing about me hooking up with other guys. This literally shocked me. He had stopped seeing women he was serious about in the past because they cheated on him or were sleeping with other dudes. I asked him why and he said that he knew I was loyal by this point, and it turns him on.

I’m not shaming this, but it lowkey feels like a trap. I told him that I am absolutely not okay with him sleeping with other women, and he said fine. I just dunno what to do. I mean, sure, there’s a dude I would hookup with given the chance, but I don’t know how comfortable the whole thing makes me feel and it’s kinda coming out of nowhere. He used to say how he loved that I had only ever been with him, and now he wants me to sleep around? I’m kinda confused.

Is there anyone else who has this kink/been in this situation and did it go well? Is this an actual thing, or do you think he’s saying this as an excuse to sleep around himself? I don’t want this to backfire on me. Help!

So, my long distance boyfriend (25m) who l’ve (22f) been on and off with for about 3 1/2 years and only long distance with for a few months just started asking me to explore some kinks and I’m really torn.

I was a virgin when I met him, and he made me feel super safe, listened to me, and like any couple, we pretty much have done everything together and know what each other likes.

We took a break in the middle of our relationship and hooked up with other people and it was hard on me because I’m a pretty jealous person. He also didn’t take it well that I was hooking up with other guys but got over it quickly. Recently he just told me that he’s turned on by hearing about me hooking up with other guys. This literally shocked me. He had stopped seeing women he was serious about in the past because they cheated on him or were sleeping with other dudes. I asked him why and he said that he knew I was loyal by this point, and it turns him on.

I’m not shaming this, but it lowkey feels like a trap. I told him that I am absolutely not okay with him sleeping with other women, and he said fine. I just dunno what to do. I mean, sure, there’s a dude I would hookup with given the chance, but I don’t know how comfortable the whole thing makes me feel and it’s kinda coming out of nowhere. He used to say how he loved that I had only ever been with him, and now he wants me to sleep around? I’m kinda confused.

Is there anyone else who has this kink/been in this situation and did it go well? Is this an actual thing, or do you think he’s saying this as an excuse to sleep around himself? I don’t want this to backfire on me. Help!