How can I help my boyfriend become more comfortable with the fact that I am a virgin /u/Amazing-Phrase9397 Sex

My bf and I (both 21) have been together for 6 months now. I hope this doesn’t get taken down since it includes the topic of getting soft before we try to have intercourse.

In the beginning, I was a little shy and I told him that I was a virgin and he didn’t seem to care about it that much. We started exploring each other sexually after 3 months or so, and I became so much more confident and in tune with my sexuality because I felt like I was really for more every time. For about 2 months we’ve only one oral sex on each other and I am enjoying it very much and he is as well. We never had an issue on this until a month ago, when we tried for the first time to have sex and we were both very nervous, he went soft right after he got up to get the condom. I couldn’t give a crap less about not being able to have sex right then, I understood him and I was so saddened that he got so upset about not being able to go all the way. We tried again next day, didn’t work He kinda avoided it for the next 2-3 weeks, then we tried again and he still has the same issue. I breaks my heart because he gets so upset over it, I feel bad that I made it seem like such a big deal that I am a virgin and losing it has to be some sort of perfect fucking ceremony or whatever. He says that he only had sex with people that he didn’t really care for, and that now he loves me so much and wants my first (and our) first time to be good enough. I wanted him to talk more about his anxiety and maybe find to root problem. I am no therapist, but I just want him to know that he is loved and understood and that there is no judgement, especially when we are both only trying to see what works.

This might be a common issue, but I am afraid for it to not snowball into something. He gets anxious for it to not happen again, then it happens and he becomes angry at himself and frustrated. I don’t unfulfilled on a sexual level, but I want to us to be able to have sex. He made me become a more sexual and confident person, while I feel he is become more insecure.

My bf and I (both 21) have been together for 6 months now. I hope this doesn’t get taken down since it includes the topic of getting soft before we try to have intercourse.

In the beginning, I was a little shy and I told him that I was a virgin and he didn’t seem to care about it that much. We started exploring each other sexually after 3 months or so, and I became so much more confident and in tune with my sexuality because I felt like I was really for more every time. For about 2 months we’ve only one oral sex on each other and I am enjoying it very much and he is as well. We never had an issue on this until a month ago, when we tried for the first time to have sex and we were both very nervous, he went soft right after he got up to get the condom. I couldn’t give a crap less about not being able to have sex right then, I understood him and I was so saddened that he got so upset about not being able to go all the way. We tried again next day, didn’t work He kinda avoided it for the next 2-3 weeks, then we tried again and he still has the same issue. I breaks my heart because he gets so upset over it, I feel bad that I made it seem like such a big deal that I am a virgin and losing it has to be some sort of perfect fucking ceremony or whatever. He says that he only had sex with people that he didn’t really care for, and that now he loves me so much and wants my first (and our) first time to be good enough. I wanted him to talk more about his anxiety and maybe find to root problem. I am no therapist, but I just want him to know that he is loved and understood and that there is no judgement, especially when we are both only trying to see what works.

This might be a common issue, but I am afraid for it to not snowball into something. He gets anxious for it to not happen again, then it happens and he becomes angry at himself and frustrated. I don’t unfulfilled on a sexual level, but I want to us to be able to have sex. He made me become a more sexual and confident person, while I feel he is become more insecure.