I (m18) have been with my girlfriend (f18) for a full year and we still haven’t had sex. Why? I can’t get hard. Sometimes I get hard, but can’t stay hard. That upsets her. Sometimes I can get hard if I touch myself, but that upsets her. And even if I can get hard, I’m way too fucking nervous to actually try sex. The act of putting on a condom and getting it in sounds way too hard. My girlfriend has had a good amount of sex before me. Most of my anxiety comes from worrying that I’ll upset her if I can’t get hard. I don’t blame her at all, but this makes it extremely difficult. She won’t give me head cause she’s worried I will go soft. I can’t finger her cause if I do, I’ll go soft and it’ll upset her. We’re so stuck. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Yes, I’ve been to a doctor. The cause is not physical. I’m 18, in good shape, watch no porn, and get morning wood. I can get hard on my own, and probably could with her if I could touch myself. But she feels like she’s not giving me an erection and that’s hard for her. Again, I totally can’t blame her for that. Even if I do get hard anyway, it feels so fragile like it could just disappear at any second. It’s so stressful for me and she’s not really there for me cause it’s equally stressful for her. She was more supportive at the beginning of our relationship, but at this point, I can tell she’s fed up with it. What do I do? I need to save this relationship.
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r/sex I (m18) have been with my girlfriend (f18) for a full year and we still haven’t had sex. Why? I can’t get hard. Sometimes I get hard, but can’t stay hard. That upsets her. Sometimes I can get hard if I touch myself, but that upsets her. And even if I can get hard, I’m way too fucking nervous to actually try sex. The act of putting on a condom and getting it in sounds way too hard. My girlfriend has had a good amount of sex before me. Most of my anxiety comes from worrying that I’ll upset her if I can’t get hard. I don’t blame her at all, but this makes it extremely difficult. She won’t give me head cause she’s worried I will go soft. I can’t finger her cause if I do, I’ll go soft and it’ll upset her. We’re so stuck. I don’t know what to do. Please help. Yes, I’ve been to a doctor. The cause is not physical. I’m 18, in good shape, watch no porn, and get morning wood. I can get hard on my own, and probably could with her if I could touch myself. But she feels like she’s not giving me an erection and that’s hard for her. Again, I totally can’t blame her for that. Even if I do get hard anyway, it feels so fragile like it could just disappear at any second. It’s so stressful for me and she’s not really there for me cause it’s equally stressful for her. She was more supportive at the beginning of our relationship, but at this point, I can tell she’s fed up with it. What do I do? I need to save this relationship. submitted by /u/arcane795 [link] [comments]
I (m18) have been with my girlfriend (f18) for a full year and we still haven’t had sex. Why? I can’t get hard. Sometimes I get hard, but can’t stay hard. That upsets her. Sometimes I can get hard if I touch myself, but that upsets her. And even if I can get hard, I’m way too fucking nervous to actually try sex. The act of putting on a condom and getting it in sounds way too hard. My girlfriend has had a good amount of sex before me. Most of my anxiety comes from worrying that I’ll upset her if I can’t get hard. I don’t blame her at all, but this makes it extremely difficult. She won’t give me head cause she’s worried I will go soft. I can’t finger her cause if I do, I’ll go soft and it’ll upset her. We’re so stuck. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Yes, I’ve been to a doctor. The cause is not physical. I’m 18, in good shape, watch no porn, and get morning wood. I can get hard on my own, and probably could with her if I could touch myself. But she feels like she’s not giving me an erection and that’s hard for her. Again, I totally can’t blame her for that. Even if I do get hard anyway, it feels so fragile like it could just disappear at any second. It’s so stressful for me and she’s not really there for me cause it’s equally stressful for her. She was more supportive at the beginning of our relationship, but at this point, I can tell she’s fed up with it. What do I do? I need to save this relationship.
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