I had sex with someone my age for the first time and it was the first time I felt an emotional connection /u/Clear_Juggernaut9899 Sex

I’m 24M. I lost my virginity very later on to someone older than me and it’s been the same cycle ever since. On and on, I only had sex with women 35+ because of where I live being a small town and what not. None of these times have I ever enjoyed it. Sure, the physical feeling felt good while it happened but I never felt a connection and it always felt weird. The way they would talk to me it felt like they were using me as some sort of boy toy to relive their youth. None of them ever talked to me in a way that I felt appreciated. I am an adult, so I’m not saying I was being preyed on, but I definitely felt a little taken advantage of. This past year I went to college again after dropping out and I was finally with people of my generation. I met people in the 18-25 range and never felt out of place. Everyone finally understands my slang and cultural references, and no one sees me as some sort of status symbol because of my age.

Yesterday, I finally had sex with someone closer to my age (23F) and it was probably the first time I enjoyed it. We talked for hours before about life and had a smoke sesh, and for the first time it felt like the girl actually cared for me and saw me as an equal. I finally felt like I “made love” instead of just romping in the hey. We actually understood each other and it didn’t feel weird. I didn’t feel icky after it was over and actually stayed the night.

I have nothing against people with age gaps. You do you king/queen. Personally for me I just had bad experiences.

I’m 24M. I lost my virginity very later on to someone older than me and it’s been the same cycle ever since. On and on, I only had sex with women 35+ because of where I live being a small town and what not. None of these times have I ever enjoyed it. Sure, the physical feeling felt good while it happened but I never felt a connection and it always felt weird. The way they would talk to me it felt like they were using me as some sort of boy toy to relive their youth. None of them ever talked to me in a way that I felt appreciated. I am an adult, so I’m not saying I was being preyed on, but I definitely felt a little taken advantage of. This past year I went to college again after dropping out and I was finally with people of my generation. I met people in the 18-25 range and never felt out of place. Everyone finally understands my slang and cultural references, and no one sees me as some sort of status symbol because of my age.

Yesterday, I finally had sex with someone closer to my age (23F) and it was probably the first time I enjoyed it. We talked for hours before about life and had a smoke sesh, and for the first time it felt like the girl actually cared for me and saw me as an equal. I finally felt like I “made love” instead of just romping in the hey. We actually understood each other and it didn’t feel weird. I didn’t feel icky after it was over and actually stayed the night.

I have nothing against people with age gaps. You do you king/queen. Personally for me I just had bad experiences.