Hiya all. So I’ve been seeing this guy from work for a little under 5 months now. He’s an amazing guy, great career, great body, sweet. The relationship has been perfect for most parts. Only bit that’s been lacking is the sexual side. My boyfriend hasn’t had sex since his high school girlfriend 6 years ago (they only had sex twice ever) Around the time that they broke up he began taking various substances and raving with his friends. He was either working towards his career or was partying.
As a result he never had time for dating and only had sex twice with random people in those 6 years & whilst all messed up and he remembers basically none of it. As a result he see’s himself as basically a virgin again since he has no idea what he’s doing. He was reluctant to get sexual with me for a few months. I didn’t know about the situation I’d talked about above at this point and was convinced he just didn’t find me attractive. Eventually I, whilst we were both drunk, blatantly asked him about what his deal was and that’s when he told me the above. He said he’d like to be intimate with me but the whole thing feels so alien to him.
I had asked for advice previously and someone suggested I just offer to give him oral as it requires nothing from him. After a bit he accepted and enjoyed it. I’ve done it for him a few times now , which I don’t mind at all as I enjoy making him feel like that. There is also something kind of attractive about him not really experiencing it before and me being able to give him it. Obviously the whole time I was very keen for it to go to the next level but he was still unsure. He’s worried he’ll make a fool out of himself and I’ll think less of him.
Today he finally called me whilst on his lunch break and said he thinks he’s ready. He’s coming round to my house in a little bit and we’re going to smoke, watch a film and take it from there. I’m pretty nervous myself, I’ve never had to take a lead on something like this before, I’ve never taken someone’s “virginity” before. Being the “dominant” one is new to me. I really want him to enjoy it and am concerned I’ll mess it up some how. How should I go about this? What can I do to make him as comfortable as possible? Stuff I can say to him? How slow should I take it? Can’t stop thinking these questions over and over in my head and I’m worried I’ll be too distracted thinking about it that I’ll mess up the main event.
Any advice appreciated xx 🙂
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r/sex Hiya all. So I’ve been seeing this guy from work for a little under 5 months now. He’s an amazing guy, great career, great body, sweet. The relationship has been perfect for most parts. Only bit that’s been lacking is the sexual side. My boyfriend hasn’t had sex since his high school girlfriend 6 years ago (they only had sex twice ever) Around the time that they broke up he began taking various substances and raving with his friends. He was either working towards his career or was partying. As a result he never had time for dating and only had sex twice with random people in those 6 years & whilst all messed up and he remembers basically none of it. As a result he see’s himself as basically a virgin again since he has no idea what he’s doing. He was reluctant to get sexual with me for a few months. I didn’t know about the situation I’d talked about above at this point and was convinced he just didn’t find me attractive. Eventually I, whilst we were both drunk, blatantly asked him about what his deal was and that’s when he told me the above. He said he’d like to be intimate with me but the whole thing feels so alien to him. I had asked for advice previously and someone suggested I just offer to give him oral as it requires nothing from him. After a bit he accepted and enjoyed it. I’ve done it for him a few times now , which I don’t mind at all as I enjoy making him feel like that. There is also something kind of attractive about him not really experiencing it before and me being able to give him it. Obviously the whole time I was very keen for it to go to the next level but he was still unsure. He’s worried he’ll make a fool out of himself and I’ll think less of him. Today he finally called me whilst on his lunch break and said he thinks he’s ready. He’s coming round to my house in a little bit and we’re going to smoke, watch a film and take it from there. I’m pretty nervous myself, I’ve never had to take a lead on something like this before, I’ve never taken someone’s “virginity” before. Being the “dominant” one is new to me. I really want him to enjoy it and am concerned I’ll mess it up some how. How should I go about this? What can I do to make him as comfortable as possible? Stuff I can say to him? How slow should I take it? Can’t stop thinking these questions over and over in my head and I’m worried I’ll be too distracted thinking about it that I’ll mess up the main event. Any advice appreciated xx 🙂 submitted by /u/throwaway1998Bradfor [link] [comments]
Hiya all. So I’ve been seeing this guy from work for a little under 5 months now. He’s an amazing guy, great career, great body, sweet. The relationship has been perfect for most parts. Only bit that’s been lacking is the sexual side. My boyfriend hasn’t had sex since his high school girlfriend 6 years ago (they only had sex twice ever) Around the time that they broke up he began taking various substances and raving with his friends. He was either working towards his career or was partying.
As a result he never had time for dating and only had sex twice with random people in those 6 years & whilst all messed up and he remembers basically none of it. As a result he see’s himself as basically a virgin again since he has no idea what he’s doing. He was reluctant to get sexual with me for a few months. I didn’t know about the situation I’d talked about above at this point and was convinced he just didn’t find me attractive. Eventually I, whilst we were both drunk, blatantly asked him about what his deal was and that’s when he told me the above. He said he’d like to be intimate with me but the whole thing feels so alien to him.
I had asked for advice previously and someone suggested I just offer to give him oral as it requires nothing from him. After a bit he accepted and enjoyed it. I’ve done it for him a few times now , which I don’t mind at all as I enjoy making him feel like that. There is also something kind of attractive about him not really experiencing it before and me being able to give him it. Obviously the whole time I was very keen for it to go to the next level but he was still unsure. He’s worried he’ll make a fool out of himself and I’ll think less of him.
Today he finally called me whilst on his lunch break and said he thinks he’s ready. He’s coming round to my house in a little bit and we’re going to smoke, watch a film and take it from there. I’m pretty nervous myself, I’ve never had to take a lead on something like this before, I’ve never taken someone’s “virginity” before. Being the “dominant” one is new to me. I really want him to enjoy it and am concerned I’ll mess it up some how. How should I go about this? What can I do to make him as comfortable as possible? Stuff I can say to him? How slow should I take it? Can’t stop thinking these questions over and over in my head and I’m worried I’ll be too distracted thinking about it that I’ll mess up the main event.
Any advice appreciated xx 🙂
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