We have been exploring our sexuality lately, and we had a talk about kinks. Turns out her past sexual partners didn’t allow her to explore any kink.
And until here everything is normal, but then her kinks started slowly coming out, and I couldn’t make sense out of them. I get the kinks themselves, but some of them seem to be completely in contrast.
I’m gonna list them so it’s clearer:
She would like to have me watch her have sex with another dude She would like to watch me have sex with another gal Threesomes, third party can only perform gay sex (if we do it with a guy he can only have sex with me, if we do it with a girl she can only have sex with her. No touch allowed between opposite sexes. Completely in contrasts with the previous kinks imo) She likes being dominated and being with a dominant man. Humiliation included. She wants to see me have sex with a guy bigger than me (and be passive) Butt stuff to me, she likes my vulnerability She would like to have me flirt with other girls, watch them “want me”, and then she comes and takes me home with her. But she doesn’t want me to have any physical contact with girls while flirting (which to me is funny considering kink 1 and 2. Also this view of the “dominant man” seems completely in contrast with kinks 5-6)
The rest are pretty standard or I can atleast make sense out of them.
I’m gonna be honest, I was pretty shocked when I heard them, I can’t/don’t want to fufill them all, I fear that she will feel “sexually limited” with me. The kinks I listed seem to be in complete contrast with one another, some of them want a dominant man, others want a sub man, others put focus on exclusivity, others the complete opposite.
The fact that one would need to have two opposite mentalities to fufill all her kinks is very confusing, I can’t understand what is passing through her mind.
Also some kinks stuck with me, and changed the way I see her (Num. 1 in particular has been messing with my head lately).
I know she loves me, a lot, and I know for a fact she would be ready to give all the kinks up to stay with me, but ironically that’s the part that scares me the most, all those kinks laying there for years unfufilled and sexual dissatisfaction that builds up over time. Sex is very important for her.
I’m really at loss, and the feeling that whichever decision I make is going to bite me in the ass sooner or later isn’t helping deciding what to do.
I can’t just say “no we can’t do them” and never think about them again, even assuming she can competely forget them for me, I just can’t. Some of them disturb me
I really don’t know what to do with all this
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r/sex We have been exploring our sexuality lately, and we had a talk about kinks. Turns out her past sexual partners didn’t allow her to explore any kink. And until here everything is normal, but then her kinks started slowly coming out, and I couldn’t make sense out of them. I get the kinks themselves, but some of them seem to be completely in contrast. I’m gonna list them so it’s clearer: She would like to have me watch her have sex with another dude She would like to watch me have sex with another gal Threesomes, third party can only perform gay sex (if we do it with a guy he can only have sex with me, if we do it with a girl she can only have sex with her. No touch allowed between opposite sexes. Completely in contrasts with the previous kinks imo) She likes being dominated and being with a dominant man. Humiliation included. She wants to see me have sex with a guy bigger than me (and be passive) Butt stuff to me, she likes my vulnerability She would like to have me flirt with other girls, watch them “want me”, and then she comes and takes me home with her. But she doesn’t want me to have any physical contact with girls while flirting (which to me is funny considering kink 1 and 2. Also this view of the “dominant man” seems completely in contrast with kinks 5-6) The rest are pretty standard or I can atleast make sense out of them. I’m gonna be honest, I was pretty shocked when I heard them, I can’t/don’t want to fufill them all, I fear that she will feel “sexually limited” with me. The kinks I listed seem to be in complete contrast with one another, some of them want a dominant man, others want a sub man, others put focus on exclusivity, others the complete opposite. The fact that one would need to have two opposite mentalities to fufill all her kinks is very confusing, I can’t understand what is passing through her mind. Also some kinks stuck with me, and changed the way I see her (Num. 1 in particular has been messing with my head lately). I know she loves me, a lot, and I know for a fact she would be ready to give all the kinks up to stay with me, but ironically that’s the part that scares me the most, all those kinks laying there for years unfufilled and sexual dissatisfaction that builds up over time. Sex is very important for her. I’m really at loss, and the feeling that whichever decision I make is going to bite me in the ass sooner or later isn’t helping deciding what to do. I can’t just say “no we can’t do them” and never think about them again, even assuming she can competely forget them for me, I just can’t. Some of them disturb me I really don’t know what to do with all this submitted by /u/Unkn01 [link] [comments]
We have been exploring our sexuality lately, and we had a talk about kinks. Turns out her past sexual partners didn’t allow her to explore any kink.
And until here everything is normal, but then her kinks started slowly coming out, and I couldn’t make sense out of them. I get the kinks themselves, but some of them seem to be completely in contrast.
I’m gonna list them so it’s clearer:
She would like to have me watch her have sex with another dude She would like to watch me have sex with another gal Threesomes, third party can only perform gay sex (if we do it with a guy he can only have sex with me, if we do it with a girl she can only have sex with her. No touch allowed between opposite sexes. Completely in contrasts with the previous kinks imo) She likes being dominated and being with a dominant man. Humiliation included. She wants to see me have sex with a guy bigger than me (and be passive) Butt stuff to me, she likes my vulnerability She would like to have me flirt with other girls, watch them “want me”, and then she comes and takes me home with her. But she doesn’t want me to have any physical contact with girls while flirting (which to me is funny considering kink 1 and 2. Also this view of the “dominant man” seems completely in contrast with kinks 5-6)
The rest are pretty standard or I can atleast make sense out of them.
I’m gonna be honest, I was pretty shocked when I heard them, I can’t/don’t want to fufill them all, I fear that she will feel “sexually limited” with me. The kinks I listed seem to be in complete contrast with one another, some of them want a dominant man, others want a sub man, others put focus on exclusivity, others the complete opposite.
The fact that one would need to have two opposite mentalities to fufill all her kinks is very confusing, I can’t understand what is passing through her mind.
Also some kinks stuck with me, and changed the way I see her (Num. 1 in particular has been messing with my head lately).
I know she loves me, a lot, and I know for a fact she would be ready to give all the kinks up to stay with me, but ironically that’s the part that scares me the most, all those kinks laying there for years unfufilled and sexual dissatisfaction that builds up over time. Sex is very important for her.
I’m really at loss, and the feeling that whichever decision I make is going to bite me in the ass sooner or later isn’t helping deciding what to do.
I can’t just say “no we can’t do them” and never think about them again, even assuming she can competely forget them for me, I just can’t. Some of them disturb me
I really don’t know what to do with all this
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