When does sex typically stop in a marriage? /u/Tiny_Trevor_Forever Sex

My wife said to me,

“Sex is for single people on their 20s” once and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m 38 and she’s 34 so we only have sex about once a month. I can tell it’s going to get worse from here as the cadence is becoming more and more infrequent. I’ve asked five or six times throughout our marriage for more intimacy and I’m always met with criticism. And the criticism is usually conflicting. Example:

“I need more foreplay”

“You do too much oral on me”

“Don’t touch my nipples so much”

Now I’m convinced that I’m just not good enough at sex. I talked to my therapist about it and she told me that sex changes over the course of our lives and it’s okay to mourn that… I’ll be honest, the idea of mourning my sexuality makes me want to panic-cry.

Is this how it’s supposed to go? I’m so unhappy

My wife said to me,

“Sex is for single people on their 20s” once and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m 38 and she’s 34 so we only have sex about once a month. I can tell it’s going to get worse from here as the cadence is becoming more and more infrequent. I’ve asked five or six times throughout our marriage for more intimacy and I’m always met with criticism. And the criticism is usually conflicting. Example:

“I need more foreplay”

“You do too much oral on me”

“Don’t touch my nipples so much”

Now I’m convinced that I’m just not good enough at sex. I talked to my therapist about it and she told me that sex changes over the course of our lives and it’s okay to mourn that… I’ll be honest, the idea of mourning my sexuality makes me want to panic-cry.

Is this how it’s supposed to go? I’m so unhappy