NSFW My boyfriend (31) can only cum with prostate stimulation and it’s causing a strain for me. /u/nutz1994 Sex

Hi Everyone, Super X Rated question, NSFW warning!

I’m having a little bit of a problem. I (30 f) have been with my bf for a little less than a year. I really love him. He’s smart and kind and funny and we really get along. I’ve never felt this way with anyone before. The one problem that I have is the sex. We really don’t have sex that often (1-2/month) and when we do he always needs prostate stimulation. I am happy to make him feel good and willing to use a finger or whatever, and I’m going to buy a little toy for him for Valentines day. The problem is, he can’t cum without it. Like, the penetrative, vaginal sex is so low priority to him because he needs the prostate or it’s no dice. It’s making me feel unsatisfied because, while I don’t mind doing it, I want to feel like he wants to have sex with me and I just don’t. I really like when guys I’ve been with cum inside of me, but he can’t do that because he needs stimulation the whole time.

And then last night was just the worst. We had sex for the first time in a while (maybe 3 weeks). First problem I had with it, there was like 0 foreplay. None. He fingered me for like 2 seconds and gave a very feeble half hearted attempt to eat me out and then was like “did you cum” and I was like “not yet.” Then we fucked for like 1 second and he told me to do the prostate stimulation. I did that was fine. He came. That was it. The whole thing has had me depressed because the sex felt very one sided. It didn’t even matter if I felt good. There was no foreplay and I had to just finish myself off. In the beginning he still needed prostate but at least I felt like he wanted me to be there. Like there was exploration adn he was very in sync with my body, but I’m so disappointed right now.

What do I do?! I want to give him what he needs, but I don’t know how to have sex and stimulate his prostate at the same time. I feel bad that he didn’t even seem to care about my pleasure. I’m bummed that I don’t feel like he likes having sex with me I just don’t knwo what to do. I want to enjoy having sex with him but this, especially last night, is not it.

Any advice about how to have sex/improve sex when the guy needs prostate stimulation. I don’t want to shame him for what he likes, I just want us both to enjoy it and, right now, I don’t see how that’s possible.

How do people have sex that doesn’t revolve around this entirely?

Is there anything I can do to make it a more mutual experience? A toy he can use while I ride him or something?

I don’t know, please help.

Hi Everyone, Super X Rated question, NSFW warning!

I’m having a little bit of a problem. I (30 f) have been with my bf for a little less than a year. I really love him. He’s smart and kind and funny and we really get along. I’ve never felt this way with anyone before. The one problem that I have is the sex. We really don’t have sex that often (1-2/month) and when we do he always needs prostate stimulation. I am happy to make him feel good and willing to use a finger or whatever, and I’m going to buy a little toy for him for Valentines day. The problem is, he can’t cum without it. Like, the penetrative, vaginal sex is so low priority to him because he needs the prostate or it’s no dice. It’s making me feel unsatisfied because, while I don’t mind doing it, I want to feel like he wants to have sex with me and I just don’t. I really like when guys I’ve been with cum inside of me, but he can’t do that because he needs stimulation the whole time.

And then last night was just the worst. We had sex for the first time in a while (maybe 3 weeks). First problem I had with it, there was like 0 foreplay. None. He fingered me for like 2 seconds and gave a very feeble half hearted attempt to eat me out and then was like “did you cum” and I was like “not yet.” Then we fucked for like 1 second and he told me to do the prostate stimulation. I did that was fine. He came. That was it. The whole thing has had me depressed because the sex felt very one sided. It didn’t even matter if I felt good. There was no foreplay and I had to just finish myself off. In the beginning he still needed prostate but at least I felt like he wanted me to be there. Like there was exploration adn he was very in sync with my body, but I’m so disappointed right now.

What do I do?! I want to give him what he needs, but I don’t know how to have sex and stimulate his prostate at the same time. I feel bad that he didn’t even seem to care about my pleasure. I’m bummed that I don’t feel like he likes having sex with me I just don’t knwo what to do. I want to enjoy having sex with him but this, especially last night, is not it.

Any advice about how to have sex/improve sex when the guy needs prostate stimulation. I don’t want to shame him for what he likes, I just want us both to enjoy it and, right now, I don’t see how that’s possible.

How do people have sex that doesn’t revolve around this entirely?

Is there anything I can do to make it a more mutual experience? A toy he can use while I ride him or something?

I don’t know, please help.