My close friend told me she was raped by another one of our friends. Not sure what to do. /u/melrose21310 Sex

(Burner + fake names, hopefully this is the right place to post)

One of my close friends (Mel) told me last year that she was raped by another one of our friends (Tom). Tom was actually the one who introduced me to Mel in the first place. I’m not that close with Tom, although we have hung out many times in a larger group setting. However, him and I do share some very good mutual friends.

I am one of the few people that Mel has informed about the incident. She even played me a recorded phone call that she has with Tom. In the call she talks to him about not consenting to the things that he did to her. He was profusely apologizing without explicitly mentioning on the phone what happened.

Mel hasn’t publicly come out with her story. Being one of the few people that she has told, I do carry some sort of guilt and feel responsibility to take some sort of action. But i can’t really do anything, until she decides if/when she’s ready to come out about it.

Just wasn’t sure what to do about it, if anything at this moment. This incident isn’t about me, but I just think about it often. It weighs heavy on me, and I feel like it really affects my mental state at times. I do feel some sort of responsibility to talk to the mutual friends that Tom and I have.

(Burner + fake names, hopefully this is the right place to post)

One of my close friends (Mel) told me last year that she was raped by another one of our friends (Tom). Tom was actually the one who introduced me to Mel in the first place. I’m not that close with Tom, although we have hung out many times in a larger group setting. However, him and I do share some very good mutual friends.

I am one of the few people that Mel has informed about the incident. She even played me a recorded phone call that she has with Tom. In the call she talks to him about not consenting to the things that he did to her. He was profusely apologizing without explicitly mentioning on the phone what happened.

Mel hasn’t publicly come out with her story. Being one of the few people that she has told, I do carry some sort of guilt and feel responsibility to take some sort of action. But i can’t really do anything, until she decides if/when she’s ready to come out about it.

Just wasn’t sure what to do about it, if anything at this moment. This incident isn’t about me, but I just think about it often. It weighs heavy on me, and I feel like it really affects my mental state at times. I do feel some sort of responsibility to talk to the mutual friends that Tom and I have.