So I asked my boyfriend if he would be comfortable with me buying a sex machine because I have a hard time orgasming generally, but especially when I have me-time because I can’t focus on many things at the same time, same with sex. So when I masturbate with dildo, it’s not as pleasurable because I have to focus on getting the dildo in the right angle, rhythm etc and I just get so unfocused on the pleasure. Same when me and my bf have sex, if I want clit play he needs to be the one to do it or else I get unfocused and the pleasures fades. I have asked him before if he could be the one thrusting the dildo which he has done a few times but often it’s a no bc he’s too tired from work etc so I thought a sex machine would solve it. But he said no because he thinks that I want it because it can go as long as I want it too and as hard as I want it to. While that is true, that’s not the reason why I want one. And I tried telling him that it isn’t replacing him or have anything with him not being enough but he just won’t listen. If I buy one I’ll use it on me-time bc that’s when I’ll need it. But I also said that if he can use the dildo on me more often then I probably won’t need a sex machine. But like I said he probably won’t bc he’s too tired etc which I understand which is why I thought of a sex machine. He is also insecure bc I told him in the beginning that he comes too fast and that I need more time which might also be a reason to why he doesn’t want me to have one. I would appreciate advice or your opinion regarding this. If anyone has been in the same situation I would love to hear your story. And if anyone has the same problem as me regarding not being able to focus on many things at the same time and have some advice I am open for it. Thanks for reading. ( I asked him because I don’t want to buy something he’s not fully comfortable with, but I also want him to understand the reason)
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r/sex So I asked my boyfriend if he would be comfortable with me buying a sex machine because I have a hard time orgasming generally, but especially when I have me-time because I can’t focus on many things at the same time, same with sex. So when I masturbate with dildo, it’s not as pleasurable because I have to focus on getting the dildo in the right angle, rhythm etc and I just get so unfocused on the pleasure. Same when me and my bf have sex, if I want clit play he needs to be the one to do it or else I get unfocused and the pleasures fades. I have asked him before if he could be the one thrusting the dildo which he has done a few times but often it’s a no bc he’s too tired from work etc so I thought a sex machine would solve it. But he said no because he thinks that I want it because it can go as long as I want it too and as hard as I want it to. While that is true, that’s not the reason why I want one. And I tried telling him that it isn’t replacing him or have anything with him not being enough but he just won’t listen. If I buy one I’ll use it on me-time bc that’s when I’ll need it. But I also said that if he can use the dildo on me more often then I probably won’t need a sex machine. But like I said he probably won’t bc he’s too tired etc which I understand which is why I thought of a sex machine. He is also insecure bc I told him in the beginning that he comes too fast and that I need more time which might also be a reason to why he doesn’t want me to have one. I would appreciate advice or your opinion regarding this. If anyone has been in the same situation I would love to hear your story. And if anyone has the same problem as me regarding not being able to focus on many things at the same time and have some advice I am open for it. Thanks for reading. ( I asked him because I don’t want to buy something he’s not fully comfortable with, but I also want him to understand the reason) submitted by /u/randomstuff1278 [link] [comments]
So I asked my boyfriend if he would be comfortable with me buying a sex machine because I have a hard time orgasming generally, but especially when I have me-time because I can’t focus on many things at the same time, same with sex. So when I masturbate with dildo, it’s not as pleasurable because I have to focus on getting the dildo in the right angle, rhythm etc and I just get so unfocused on the pleasure. Same when me and my bf have sex, if I want clit play he needs to be the one to do it or else I get unfocused and the pleasures fades. I have asked him before if he could be the one thrusting the dildo which he has done a few times but often it’s a no bc he’s too tired from work etc so I thought a sex machine would solve it. But he said no because he thinks that I want it because it can go as long as I want it too and as hard as I want it to. While that is true, that’s not the reason why I want one. And I tried telling him that it isn’t replacing him or have anything with him not being enough but he just won’t listen. If I buy one I’ll use it on me-time bc that’s when I’ll need it. But I also said that if he can use the dildo on me more often then I probably won’t need a sex machine. But like I said he probably won’t bc he’s too tired etc which I understand which is why I thought of a sex machine. He is also insecure bc I told him in the beginning that he comes too fast and that I need more time which might also be a reason to why he doesn’t want me to have one. I would appreciate advice or your opinion regarding this. If anyone has been in the same situation I would love to hear your story. And if anyone has the same problem as me regarding not being able to focus on many things at the same time and have some advice I am open for it. Thanks for reading. ( I asked him because I don’t want to buy something he’s not fully comfortable with, but I also want him to understand the reason)
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