How do I stop being so shy with my partner? /u/sillycr0w Sex

First off, I love everything about sex, and I love the person I experience it with (my girlfriend of almost 3 years). But something is holding me back from full sexual liberation.

I don’t want to be seen, at all. Forget about direct eye contact. . Even switching up positions is difficult. Only touch, feel, taste. In the dark, preferably. The weird part is I was never like this before.

Hate to say it but I think it has a lot to do with my last relationship (we broke up in 2020, together on and off for 4yrs). I went from being a sex fiend to practically celibate during that relationship. We hardly ever f*cked and whenever I did ask, which was rare, I would be rejected and told I’m too much. Not gonna lie it really messed with my head and perception of myself. Lost a lot of confidence to the point I’m so meek when it comes to initiating any physical contact.

My girlfriend at the moment seems to understand. She hasn’t complained other than that we should f*ck more often, and that she wants to see me naked. Yep, she hasn’t seen me fully naked but a handful of times, most of them being when I was intoxicated.

Any ideas on how to work on this? It’s like writer’s block but for sex. It’s going to take some inner healing for sure. There is so much more I’d like to explore… but alas this irrational fear/anxiety has its hold on me. 🙁

First off, I love everything about sex, and I love the person I experience it with (my girlfriend of almost 3 years). But something is holding me back from full sexual liberation.

I don’t want to be seen, at all. Forget about direct eye contact. . Even switching up positions is difficult. Only touch, feel, taste. In the dark, preferably. The weird part is I was never like this before.

Hate to say it but I think it has a lot to do with my last relationship (we broke up in 2020, together on and off for 4yrs). I went from being a sex fiend to practically celibate during that relationship. We hardly ever f*cked and whenever I did ask, which was rare, I would be rejected and told I’m too much. Not gonna lie it really messed with my head and perception of myself. Lost a lot of confidence to the point I’m so meek when it comes to initiating any physical contact.

My girlfriend at the moment seems to understand. She hasn’t complained other than that we should f*ck more often, and that she wants to see me naked. Yep, she hasn’t seen me fully naked but a handful of times, most of them being when I was intoxicated.

Any ideas on how to work on this? It’s like writer’s block but for sex. It’s going to take some inner healing for sure. There is so much more I’d like to explore… but alas this irrational fear/anxiety has its hold on me. 🙁