Married for 18 years, 2 kids. Life is good, lots of great plans for the future…
Our sex life is good now and has been in general for many years. We both talk about how we want each to be fulfilled, and my wife has told me that if I were ever to be presented with an opportunity to have sex with another woman that she would want me to take that opportunity. We entered into our marriage with somewhat different sexual Histories. I only had sex with one other person and I know she had several more partners than I did. She is also older than me.
Lately, and as I get older, my mind has opened a little bit to at least having fantasies about her being with me and another guy. This all sounds great in my head and sometimes we talk about it but I’m conflicted about the actual reality of what that would mean. I think one of the main problems is that in 2018 she had a short affair with an old boyfriend when we were going through some troubles. I know she feels guilty about this then I wonder sometimes if she’s trying to alleviate some of that guilt by telling me that I can be with another person if I want to.
The idea of her being with another person away from me makes me very sad and I just don’t think I would be able to come back from that in our marriage if it happened again. Then again, she’s told me that if she ever wanted to do that she would let me know first. I do believe her.
So I guess It might just be helpful to hear some other perspectives here. I wonder if it’s best If we were to just meet someone on vacation or at a club or something and just go ahead with a 3 some situation and it might not be as big of a deal as I’m making it. Maybe it would be amazing! I think I’m just really worried about the fundamental nature of our relationship changing.
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r/sex Married for 18 years, 2 kids. Life is good, lots of great plans for the future… Our sex life is good now and has been in general for many years. We both talk about how we want each to be fulfilled, and my wife has told me that if I were ever to be presented with an opportunity to have sex with another woman that she would want me to take that opportunity. We entered into our marriage with somewhat different sexual Histories. I only had sex with one other person and I know she had several more partners than I did. She is also older than me. Lately, and as I get older, my mind has opened a little bit to at least having fantasies about her being with me and another guy. This all sounds great in my head and sometimes we talk about it but I’m conflicted about the actual reality of what that would mean. I think one of the main problems is that in 2018 she had a short affair with an old boyfriend when we were going through some troubles. I know she feels guilty about this then I wonder sometimes if she’s trying to alleviate some of that guilt by telling me that I can be with another person if I want to. The idea of her being with another person away from me makes me very sad and I just don’t think I would be able to come back from that in our marriage if it happened again. Then again, she’s told me that if she ever wanted to do that she would let me know first. I do believe her. So I guess It might just be helpful to hear some other perspectives here. I wonder if it’s best If we were to just meet someone on vacation or at a club or something and just go ahead with a 3 some situation and it might not be as big of a deal as I’m making it. Maybe it would be amazing! I think I’m just really worried about the fundamental nature of our relationship changing. submitted by /u/MNcouple6900 [link] [comments]
Married for 18 years, 2 kids. Life is good, lots of great plans for the future…
Our sex life is good now and has been in general for many years. We both talk about how we want each to be fulfilled, and my wife has told me that if I were ever to be presented with an opportunity to have sex with another woman that she would want me to take that opportunity. We entered into our marriage with somewhat different sexual Histories. I only had sex with one other person and I know she had several more partners than I did. She is also older than me.
Lately, and as I get older, my mind has opened a little bit to at least having fantasies about her being with me and another guy. This all sounds great in my head and sometimes we talk about it but I’m conflicted about the actual reality of what that would mean. I think one of the main problems is that in 2018 she had a short affair with an old boyfriend when we were going through some troubles. I know she feels guilty about this then I wonder sometimes if she’s trying to alleviate some of that guilt by telling me that I can be with another person if I want to.
The idea of her being with another person away from me makes me very sad and I just don’t think I would be able to come back from that in our marriage if it happened again. Then again, she’s told me that if she ever wanted to do that she would let me know first. I do believe her.
So I guess It might just be helpful to hear some other perspectives here. I wonder if it’s best If we were to just meet someone on vacation or at a club or something and just go ahead with a 3 some situation and it might not be as big of a deal as I’m making it. Maybe it would be amazing! I think I’m just really worried about the fundamental nature of our relationship changing.
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