My boyfriend said I’m vanilla, and it made me sad. I do want to do something about it though. /u/tixo_96 Sex

I know it shouldn’t be taken as an insult and many people enjoy vanilla sex, but my boyfriend is not one of them. He’s super adventurous and I’m well… not. He’s my first real relationship. I’ve hooked up with other people in the past but they were one night stands or friends with benefits kinda thing. So it wasn’t long term where we would explore everything you can imagine with our bodies. Anyone got some tips to make my man happy in bed? Lol. I love him so much and our relationships been amazing but I do want to spice things up a little in bed. He really likes it when I go down on him and so far I feel like he enjoys that more than sex. Also how do I make sex less painful for me? I’ve asked him to slow down but he just keeps jabbing at me like a dagger its not enjoyable for me.

I know it shouldn’t be taken as an insult and many people enjoy vanilla sex, but my boyfriend is not one of them. He’s super adventurous and I’m well… not. He’s my first real relationship. I’ve hooked up with other people in the past but they were one night stands or friends with benefits kinda thing. So it wasn’t long term where we would explore everything you can imagine with our bodies. Anyone got some tips to make my man happy in bed? Lol. I love him so much and our relationships been amazing but I do want to spice things up a little in bed. He really likes it when I go down on him and so far I feel like he enjoys that more than sex. Also how do I make sex less painful for me? I’ve asked him to slow down but he just keeps jabbing at me like a dagger its not enjoyable for me.