My boyfriend is trying to force me into a threesome /u/AssumptionBoring6251 Sex

Hi, I’m currently at a loss right now and don’t know what to do. My (24F) boyfriend (30M) recently brought up wanting to do a threesome with another woman. This happened while we were in my room about to have sex and I communicated to him that I don’t think that is for me. He immediately gets upset. I told him that at the beginning of our getting to know each other I had asked him his thoughts on it and he said no, never. I responded with perfect because I’m not interested in that, so what is going on? At one point he just lets me go (we were cuddling) and rolls over turning his back to me mad. I ended up having to console him because he was genuinely mad at my response. Well, no onto last night (Monday) we were on the phone and the subject came up again because I wanted to make sure he wasn’t going to start harassing me and would respect my boundaries. He then proceeds to give me an ultimatum on how I am interfering with his dreams and how I could ever get in the way of that. There is no compromising with him, and it’s not the first time it has happened where we can’t find the middle ground, so I agree for the sake of wanting the argument to end. I then tell him how I feel like I am being manipulated into agreeing and he just begins to go on saying “Well if I decide to continue dating you” which he only started saying the moment he asked for a threesome. I tried to communicate how I wish he wouldn’t put me in a position where I have to agree if I want to keep him in my life to which he threw it back at me again as to how he feels that he has to give up his dream and something that he wants to do in order to keep me in his life. I kept asking him if there was no way to compromise, and he said “because compromise is you just giving me a maybe”. I feel like I am at such a loss. I tried telling him that I wouldn’t knock it off the table and would think about it. It hurts more so because TW: SA – I am starting Trauma focused therapy for a sexual assault, and he had recently mad a poor-tasting joke about what happened to me on the day of my birthday. I feel so many emotions. I’m torn, do I try to compromise, just say yes and get it over with, or do I leave?

Hi, I’m currently at a loss right now and don’t know what to do. My (24F) boyfriend (30M) recently brought up wanting to do a threesome with another woman. This happened while we were in my room about to have sex and I communicated to him that I don’t think that is for me. He immediately gets upset. I told him that at the beginning of our getting to know each other I had asked him his thoughts on it and he said no, never. I responded with perfect because I’m not interested in that, so what is going on? At one point he just lets me go (we were cuddling) and rolls over turning his back to me mad. I ended up having to console him because he was genuinely mad at my response. Well, no onto last night (Monday) we were on the phone and the subject came up again because I wanted to make sure he wasn’t going to start harassing me and would respect my boundaries. He then proceeds to give me an ultimatum on how I am interfering with his dreams and how I could ever get in the way of that. There is no compromising with him, and it’s not the first time it has happened where we can’t find the middle ground, so I agree for the sake of wanting the argument to end. I then tell him how I feel like I am being manipulated into agreeing and he just begins to go on saying “Well if I decide to continue dating you” which he only started saying the moment he asked for a threesome. I tried to communicate how I wish he wouldn’t put me in a position where I have to agree if I want to keep him in my life to which he threw it back at me again as to how he feels that he has to give up his dream and something that he wants to do in order to keep me in his life. I kept asking him if there was no way to compromise, and he said “because compromise is you just giving me a maybe”. I feel like I am at such a loss. I tried telling him that I wouldn’t knock it off the table and would think about it. It hurts more so because TW: SA – I am starting Trauma focused therapy for a sexual assault, and he had recently mad a poor-tasting joke about what happened to me on the day of my birthday. I feel so many emotions. I’m torn, do I try to compromise, just say yes and get it over with, or do I leave?