Should I worry that my response is unhealthy? Is it common for people who perform non-vanilla sex to have mixed feelings about what they are doing?
Context; he (24m) is doing whatever he wants to me (22f), mostly facefucking and fingering, which is my problem because after one orgasm I am sensitive and he’s going for round 2 more roughly that the first round. And it hurts so bad while giving me little to no physical pleasure, probably because of the pain. But I don’t say our safeword. Even tho I feel no pleasure only pain physically, mentally I find it extremely hot that he’s doing whatever he wants, holds me in place so I cannot move and doesn’t react to my “please stop” (he stops only on safeword). Sometimes I would even purposely make him angry so he’s even more rough in bed. Same with facefucking, even though I can barely breathe I love when he uses me.
I’ve been recently wondering if this is healthy? Maybe I should talk to him about that, but what should I say? I don’t have any particular problem or need, it all just seems somewhat inappropriate and unhealthy. I was wondering if people who perform non-vanilla / bdsm sex can have such a mixed mindset. Is being into physical pain okay?
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r/sex Should I worry that my response is unhealthy? Is it common for people who perform non-vanilla sex to have mixed feelings about what they are doing? Context; he (24m) is doing whatever he wants to me (22f), mostly facefucking and fingering, which is my problem because after one orgasm I am sensitive and he’s going for round 2 more roughly that the first round. And it hurts so bad while giving me little to no physical pleasure, probably because of the pain. But I don’t say our safeword. Even tho I feel no pleasure only pain physically, mentally I find it extremely hot that he’s doing whatever he wants, holds me in place so I cannot move and doesn’t react to my “please stop” (he stops only on safeword). Sometimes I would even purposely make him angry so he’s even more rough in bed. Same with facefucking, even though I can barely breathe I love when he uses me. I’ve been recently wondering if this is healthy? Maybe I should talk to him about that, but what should I say? I don’t have any particular problem or need, it all just seems somewhat inappropriate and unhealthy. I was wondering if people who perform non-vanilla / bdsm sex can have such a mixed mindset. Is being into physical pain okay? submitted by /u/dotdotdaisy [link] [comments]
Should I worry that my response is unhealthy? Is it common for people who perform non-vanilla sex to have mixed feelings about what they are doing?
Context; he (24m) is doing whatever he wants to me (22f), mostly facefucking and fingering, which is my problem because after one orgasm I am sensitive and he’s going for round 2 more roughly that the first round. And it hurts so bad while giving me little to no physical pleasure, probably because of the pain. But I don’t say our safeword. Even tho I feel no pleasure only pain physically, mentally I find it extremely hot that he’s doing whatever he wants, holds me in place so I cannot move and doesn’t react to my “please stop” (he stops only on safeword). Sometimes I would even purposely make him angry so he’s even more rough in bed. Same with facefucking, even though I can barely breathe I love when he uses me.
I’ve been recently wondering if this is healthy? Maybe I should talk to him about that, but what should I say? I don’t have any particular problem or need, it all just seems somewhat inappropriate and unhealthy. I was wondering if people who perform non-vanilla / bdsm sex can have such a mixed mindset. Is being into physical pain okay?
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