My husband, while generous, isn’t innately curious about women’s anatomy or pleasure. I’ve tried to teach him, and he does try, buy he’s impossibly clumsy down there. He just doesn’t learn from me telling him what is working and what isn’t, and frankly, he doesn’t do it for me. His face hair, even after shaving, is like a porcupine right under the skin. I hate everything about his mouth on me. I don’t even like French kissing him. I’m just incompatible with his mouth I guess. And he doesn’t try to use his hands very often, mostly because it would take more time, and I already take a long time. Never had this problem in other relationships. PIV doesn’t work either for me, and so we rely on toys (a vibe and a sucking toy). Even when I’m alone, I use a toy, because I don’t get much alone time and I’ve got stuff to do.
And that’s fine I guess, but after 15 years, I want to learn how to enjoy being licked and touched again. We are thinking about trying an open marriage to spice things up, but I worry that I won’t even know how to enjoy real sex or cunnilingus anymore, so it would be more frustrating for me than anything else. How can I retrain myself on my own? Will playing with my hands only help me enjoy a tongue sensation more, too?
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r/sex My husband, while generous, isn’t innately curious about women’s anatomy or pleasure. I’ve tried to teach him, and he does try, buy he’s impossibly clumsy down there. He just doesn’t learn from me telling him what is working and what isn’t, and frankly, he doesn’t do it for me. His face hair, even after shaving, is like a porcupine right under the skin. I hate everything about his mouth on me. I don’t even like French kissing him. I’m just incompatible with his mouth I guess. And he doesn’t try to use his hands very often, mostly because it would take more time, and I already take a long time. Never had this problem in other relationships. PIV doesn’t work either for me, and so we rely on toys (a vibe and a sucking toy). Even when I’m alone, I use a toy, because I don’t get much alone time and I’ve got stuff to do. And that’s fine I guess, but after 15 years, I want to learn how to enjoy being licked and touched again. We are thinking about trying an open marriage to spice things up, but I worry that I won’t even know how to enjoy real sex or cunnilingus anymore, so it would be more frustrating for me than anything else. How can I retrain myself on my own? Will playing with my hands only help me enjoy a tongue sensation more, too? submitted by /u/Worth_Condition511 [link] [comments]
My husband, while generous, isn’t innately curious about women’s anatomy or pleasure. I’ve tried to teach him, and he does try, buy he’s impossibly clumsy down there. He just doesn’t learn from me telling him what is working and what isn’t, and frankly, he doesn’t do it for me. His face hair, even after shaving, is like a porcupine right under the skin. I hate everything about his mouth on me. I don’t even like French kissing him. I’m just incompatible with his mouth I guess. And he doesn’t try to use his hands very often, mostly because it would take more time, and I already take a long time. Never had this problem in other relationships. PIV doesn’t work either for me, and so we rely on toys (a vibe and a sucking toy). Even when I’m alone, I use a toy, because I don’t get much alone time and I’ve got stuff to do.
And that’s fine I guess, but after 15 years, I want to learn how to enjoy being licked and touched again. We are thinking about trying an open marriage to spice things up, but I worry that I won’t even know how to enjoy real sex or cunnilingus anymore, so it would be more frustrating for me than anything else. How can I retrain myself on my own? Will playing with my hands only help me enjoy a tongue sensation more, too?
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