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Hi all, me (26) and my GF (23) have met around 3 months ago and we have been official for about 1.5 month. Before we had sex she already told me a little bit about her abusive past. Before she lost her virginity she already had panic attacks which would only get worse after she met her ex. He would ignore her pleads to stop if she was uncomfortable and would continue. Which caused for her panic attacks to worsen. At first she didn’t realise this was considered abuse (probably because of manipulation from him).

Good for her she finally realised and broke up with him but then she met her second bf at the time. Which was also a narcissist piece of shit. He told her that her feelings were invalid and that the whole world didn’t revolve around her. Luckily this relation didn’t last very long but after she broke up with him he stalked her for a very long time to the point she had to go to the police.

1 year went by and finally she got a little better. She has less panic attacks and things are going better. The first time we had sex it was great there were no problems or it didn’t seem to trigger any bad memories from her. We have had sex a lot now and I have never been so intimate and close to someone’s as I have been with her. But sometimes I can see on her face that something is wrong and I immediately stop what I am doing to hug her and to comfort her. She says that I am better at spotting that something is wrong before she even realises. But even then it triggers a panic attack and she just shuts down and is unable to move or even talk. During this I just hold her and say things that she is safe with me and I would never hurt her and that I love her. I know she appreciates it but there is no word that exist that could truly make her feel better.

She even make me promise to her that if I ever get tired of supporting her I should say so because people before me left her already because of it. This absolutely breaks my hard and I cannot imagine a world were I would leave her for that.

Do any of you have any advice for me how to handle this situation better. I want to make her as comfortable as possible.

Thanks a lot.

Hi all, me (26) and my GF (23) have met around 3 months ago and we have been official for about 1.5 month. Before we had sex she already told me a little bit about her abusive past. Before she lost her virginity she already had panic attacks which would only get worse after she met her ex. He would ignore her pleads to stop if she was uncomfortable and would continue. Which caused for her panic attacks to worsen. At first she didn’t realise this was considered abuse (probably because of manipulation from him).

Good for her she finally realised and broke up with him but then she met her second bf at the time. Which was also a narcissist piece of shit. He told her that her feelings were invalid and that the whole world didn’t revolve around her. Luckily this relation didn’t last very long but after she broke up with him he stalked her for a very long time to the point she had to go to the police.

1 year went by and finally she got a little better. She has less panic attacks and things are going better. The first time we had sex it was great there were no problems or it didn’t seem to trigger any bad memories from her. We have had sex a lot now and I have never been so intimate and close to someone’s as I have been with her. But sometimes I can see on her face that something is wrong and I immediately stop what I am doing to hug her and to comfort her. She says that I am better at spotting that something is wrong before she even realises. But even then it triggers a panic attack and she just shuts down and is unable to move or even talk. During this I just hold her and say things that she is safe with me and I would never hurt her and that I love her. I know she appreciates it but there is no word that exist that could truly make her feel better.

She even make me promise to her that if I ever get tired of supporting her I should say so because people before me left her already because of it. This absolutely breaks my hard and I cannot imagine a world were I would leave her for that.

Do any of you have any advice for me how to handle this situation better. I want to make her as comfortable as possible.

Thanks a lot.