Hello to the good folks of r/sex.
I’m 30F, in a wonderful relationship with my partner (NB) and our sex life is pretty awesome. They recently initiated a conversation where they said they want to give me orgasms more often. This isn’t an issue at all.
The issue is that I find it really difficult to orgasm when a partner stimulates me, or even when they’re present while I’m masturbating (with their consent).
It’s difficult in the sense that it takes a long time – 15+ minutes, usually quite a while longer, and I really have to focus on it. I can’t move or really do anything else while the goal is for them to give me an orgasm. If I do, any progress I’ve made towards it just disappears, which means I can’t stimulate them at that point. It also takes a long time the minute I’m not on my own – if they joined me in bed and I masturbated, it would take a long time to reach orgasm.
Both of us enjoy giving the other pleasure and while they enjoy the fact that I get a lot of pleasure from them, it is challenging to them that I struggle to orgasm.
Does anyone else struggle with this? Has anyone found a way to get past it or make it better?
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r/sex Hello to the good folks of r/sex. I’m 30F, in a wonderful relationship with my partner (NB) and our sex life is pretty awesome. They recently initiated a conversation where they said they want to give me orgasms more often. This isn’t an issue at all. The issue is that I find it really difficult to orgasm when a partner stimulates me, or even when they’re present while I’m masturbating (with their consent). It’s difficult in the sense that it takes a long time – 15+ minutes, usually quite a while longer, and I really have to focus on it. I can’t move or really do anything else while the goal is for them to give me an orgasm. If I do, any progress I’ve made towards it just disappears, which means I can’t stimulate them at that point. It also takes a long time the minute I’m not on my own – if they joined me in bed and I masturbated, it would take a long time to reach orgasm. Both of us enjoy giving the other pleasure and while they enjoy the fact that I get a lot of pleasure from them, it is challenging to them that I struggle to orgasm. Does anyone else struggle with this? Has anyone found a way to get past it or make it better? submitted by /u/NotSoFireproof91 [link] [comments]
Hello to the good folks of r/sex.
I’m 30F, in a wonderful relationship with my partner (NB) and our sex life is pretty awesome. They recently initiated a conversation where they said they want to give me orgasms more often. This isn’t an issue at all.
The issue is that I find it really difficult to orgasm when a partner stimulates me, or even when they’re present while I’m masturbating (with their consent).
It’s difficult in the sense that it takes a long time – 15+ minutes, usually quite a while longer, and I really have to focus on it. I can’t move or really do anything else while the goal is for them to give me an orgasm. If I do, any progress I’ve made towards it just disappears, which means I can’t stimulate them at that point. It also takes a long time the minute I’m not on my own – if they joined me in bed and I masturbated, it would take a long time to reach orgasm.
Both of us enjoy giving the other pleasure and while they enjoy the fact that I get a lot of pleasure from them, it is challenging to them that I struggle to orgasm.
Does anyone else struggle with this? Has anyone found a way to get past it or make it better?
submitted by /u/NotSoFireproof91
[link] [comments]