I’ve been on a couple dates with this guy and we have great chemistry outside of the bedroom. We have similar interests and great humor. I seriously adore him.
When we’ve been intimate, it’s terrible. Each date, he will initiate sex multiple times, but during will seem completely disinterested. He is completely silent and its very impersonal feeling. I always try to initiate a little foreplay like a handjob or blowjob and he is completely unreactive and eventually will stop me. I like to talk a bit during sex to check in with people to see what’s feeling good etc and it usually works great, but when I did with him he just said “Sorry I’m not very expressive”. He also only ever wants to do doggystyle. He never finishes and usually says he wants to stop because he’s getting tired. I of course don’t finish either, but he doesn’t mention anything about that.
I am SO confused. I usually have really fun, hot sex with my partners, so I am very confused as to how I should approach this. Why does he initiate sex numerous times throughout the date, but doesn’t appear to enjoy it or even finish? It feels like there’s an elephant in the room and since he hasn’t responded to my attempts of communicating during sex, I’m worried bringing this up will overwhelm him.
I know he’s been in previous relationships, but not any other details. Just saying that I don’t think he was a virgin.
I like this guy’s personality so much that it would be cool to build trust intimately and have better sex, but does it sound hopeless?
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r/sex I’ve been on a couple dates with this guy and we have great chemistry outside of the bedroom. We have similar interests and great humor. I seriously adore him. When we’ve been intimate, it’s terrible. Each date, he will initiate sex multiple times, but during will seem completely disinterested. He is completely silent and its very impersonal feeling. I always try to initiate a little foreplay like a handjob or blowjob and he is completely unreactive and eventually will stop me. I like to talk a bit during sex to check in with people to see what’s feeling good etc and it usually works great, but when I did with him he just said “Sorry I’m not very expressive”. He also only ever wants to do doggystyle. He never finishes and usually says he wants to stop because he’s getting tired. I of course don’t finish either, but he doesn’t mention anything about that. I am SO confused. I usually have really fun, hot sex with my partners, so I am very confused as to how I should approach this. Why does he initiate sex numerous times throughout the date, but doesn’t appear to enjoy it or even finish? It feels like there’s an elephant in the room and since he hasn’t responded to my attempts of communicating during sex, I’m worried bringing this up will overwhelm him. I know he’s been in previous relationships, but not any other details. Just saying that I don’t think he was a virgin. I like this guy’s personality so much that it would be cool to build trust intimately and have better sex, but does it sound hopeless? submitted by /u/gottathrowitaway1550 [link] [comments]
I’ve been on a couple dates with this guy and we have great chemistry outside of the bedroom. We have similar interests and great humor. I seriously adore him.
When we’ve been intimate, it’s terrible. Each date, he will initiate sex multiple times, but during will seem completely disinterested. He is completely silent and its very impersonal feeling. I always try to initiate a little foreplay like a handjob or blowjob and he is completely unreactive and eventually will stop me. I like to talk a bit during sex to check in with people to see what’s feeling good etc and it usually works great, but when I did with him he just said “Sorry I’m not very expressive”. He also only ever wants to do doggystyle. He never finishes and usually says he wants to stop because he’s getting tired. I of course don’t finish either, but he doesn’t mention anything about that.
I am SO confused. I usually have really fun, hot sex with my partners, so I am very confused as to how I should approach this. Why does he initiate sex numerous times throughout the date, but doesn’t appear to enjoy it or even finish? It feels like there’s an elephant in the room and since he hasn’t responded to my attempts of communicating during sex, I’m worried bringing this up will overwhelm him.
I know he’s been in previous relationships, but not any other details. Just saying that I don’t think he was a virgin.
I like this guy’s personality so much that it would be cool to build trust intimately and have better sex, but does it sound hopeless?
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