i (24F) recently started dating this guy (25M) and things are going so well, he’s so sweet, attentive, kind, and communicative. our sex life is great and lasts long, he gets hard really fast and stays hard. it takes him a while to finish but he does finish. we both have high sex drives and it’s not very easy for me to finish so i think that contributes to the sex lasting so long.
he’s very honest up front about his past and his previous relationships and even what he watches in porn. i’d like to say i’m a progressive and open person and i do watch porn too. and i can understand that it’s a fantasy. but the kind of porn he watches is really niche and mainly anal related (gaping, prolapse, deep throat puke, hardcore stuff, etc). he has told me this up front and he says that he never expects me or anyone to do this during sex and that it’s extremely unrealistic. the most that i would be willing to do is plain and slow anal sex (which i’ve never fully done before. only buttplugs) and that he’s always been into that “weird stuff” since he started watching porn in middle school. he also says he doesn’t watch it super often (don’t know how true this is).
i’m trying to wrap my head around it because my first instinct is to be insecure about not being able to do those things (i DON’T want to do these things anyways, it’s unsafe for the most part and i have told him right off the bat that i will NEVER be doing those hardcore things). but i honestly don’t know how to feel. i’ve communicated to him about my confusion and kind of my judgment (i guess?) and he seems receptive and that he’s aware that his tastes are niche and strange.
in the back of my mind i’m afraid that i won’t be enough sexually. or that he’ll lose interest, even though i have talked to him about it and he’s reassured me that our relationship is not all about sex because he likes me so much.
i guess i’m writing this to get it off my chest and maybe find some ways to cope? has anyone else been in a similar situation?
EDIT: he has never EVER pressured me into any anal sex or deep throating. everything we have done has been consensual and we have talked about it prior to having sex. he has never even suggested doing what he likes watching because he’s aware that it’s completely unrealistic.
TL;DR New boyfriend likes to watch hardcore (mainly) anal porn and I don’t know how to feel about it.
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r/sex i (24F) recently started dating this guy (25M) and things are going so well, he’s so sweet, attentive, kind, and communicative. our sex life is great and lasts long, he gets hard really fast and stays hard. it takes him a while to finish but he does finish. we both have high sex drives and it’s not very easy for me to finish so i think that contributes to the sex lasting so long. he’s very honest up front about his past and his previous relationships and even what he watches in porn. i’d like to say i’m a progressive and open person and i do watch porn too. and i can understand that it’s a fantasy. but the kind of porn he watches is really niche and mainly anal related (gaping, prolapse, deep throat puke, hardcore stuff, etc). he has told me this up front and he says that he never expects me or anyone to do this during sex and that it’s extremely unrealistic. the most that i would be willing to do is plain and slow anal sex (which i’ve never fully done before. only buttplugs) and that he’s always been into that “weird stuff” since he started watching porn in middle school. he also says he doesn’t watch it super often (don’t know how true this is). i’m trying to wrap my head around it because my first instinct is to be insecure about not being able to do those things (i DON’T want to do these things anyways, it’s unsafe for the most part and i have told him right off the bat that i will NEVER be doing those hardcore things). but i honestly don’t know how to feel. i’ve communicated to him about my confusion and kind of my judgment (i guess?) and he seems receptive and that he’s aware that his tastes are niche and strange. in the back of my mind i’m afraid that i won’t be enough sexually. or that he’ll lose interest, even though i have talked to him about it and he’s reassured me that our relationship is not all about sex because he likes me so much. i guess i’m writing this to get it off my chest and maybe find some ways to cope? has anyone else been in a similar situation? EDIT: he has never EVER pressured me into any anal sex or deep throating. everything we have done has been consensual and we have talked about it prior to having sex. he has never even suggested doing what he likes watching because he’s aware that it’s completely unrealistic. TL;DR New boyfriend likes to watch hardcore (mainly) anal porn and I don’t know how to feel about it. submitted by /u/virgob444by [link] [comments]
i (24F) recently started dating this guy (25M) and things are going so well, he’s so sweet, attentive, kind, and communicative. our sex life is great and lasts long, he gets hard really fast and stays hard. it takes him a while to finish but he does finish. we both have high sex drives and it’s not very easy for me to finish so i think that contributes to the sex lasting so long.
he’s very honest up front about his past and his previous relationships and even what he watches in porn. i’d like to say i’m a progressive and open person and i do watch porn too. and i can understand that it’s a fantasy. but the kind of porn he watches is really niche and mainly anal related (gaping, prolapse, deep throat puke, hardcore stuff, etc). he has told me this up front and he says that he never expects me or anyone to do this during sex and that it’s extremely unrealistic. the most that i would be willing to do is plain and slow anal sex (which i’ve never fully done before. only buttplugs) and that he’s always been into that “weird stuff” since he started watching porn in middle school. he also says he doesn’t watch it super often (don’t know how true this is).
i’m trying to wrap my head around it because my first instinct is to be insecure about not being able to do those things (i DON’T want to do these things anyways, it’s unsafe for the most part and i have told him right off the bat that i will NEVER be doing those hardcore things). but i honestly don’t know how to feel. i’ve communicated to him about my confusion and kind of my judgment (i guess?) and he seems receptive and that he’s aware that his tastes are niche and strange.
in the back of my mind i’m afraid that i won’t be enough sexually. or that he’ll lose interest, even though i have talked to him about it and he’s reassured me that our relationship is not all about sex because he likes me so much.
i guess i’m writing this to get it off my chest and maybe find some ways to cope? has anyone else been in a similar situation?
EDIT: he has never EVER pressured me into any anal sex or deep throating. everything we have done has been consensual and we have talked about it prior to having sex. he has never even suggested doing what he likes watching because he’s aware that it’s completely unrealistic.
TL;DR New boyfriend likes to watch hardcore (mainly) anal porn and I don’t know how to feel about it.
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