When we were dating I (27F) was on birth control and my sex drive was really low and it was very difficult to make me cum. Every time he (28M) would try giving me head or using his fingers it wouldn’t work and I would eventually ask him to stop & just take care of him. It was frustrating for both of us and eventually he stopped trying, expecting the same result every time.
Now, it has been almost 8 months since I’ve quit birth control and my labido is increasing and it has been easier to make myself cum. When I communicated this to him and asked that he do more for me, he got a little defensive and weird. Saying there was a “mental block” around making me cum. He doesn’t act interested in pleasing me sexually and it is of course affecting my self confidence and our relationship. I make him cum almost every single night, then I wait for him to fall asleep and take care of myself. I’ve told him that a little bit of resentment is building in me, it doesn’t feel fair that it is my responsibility to make us both cum. And lately I’ve been wanting to make him cum less as a kind of “see how you like it” which is unhealthy and not how I’d like to be.
I guess my question is, how can I encourage him to want to please me without complaining to him about it. I want him to be able to get past this “mental block” before our relationship is damaged further.
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r/sex When we were dating I (27F) was on birth control and my sex drive was really low and it was very difficult to make me cum. Every time he (28M) would try giving me head or using his fingers it wouldn’t work and I would eventually ask him to stop & just take care of him. It was frustrating for both of us and eventually he stopped trying, expecting the same result every time. Now, it has been almost 8 months since I’ve quit birth control and my labido is increasing and it has been easier to make myself cum. When I communicated this to him and asked that he do more for me, he got a little defensive and weird. Saying there was a “mental block” around making me cum. He doesn’t act interested in pleasing me sexually and it is of course affecting my self confidence and our relationship. I make him cum almost every single night, then I wait for him to fall asleep and take care of myself. I’ve told him that a little bit of resentment is building in me, it doesn’t feel fair that it is my responsibility to make us both cum. And lately I’ve been wanting to make him cum less as a kind of “see how you like it” which is unhealthy and not how I’d like to be. I guess my question is, how can I encourage him to want to please me without complaining to him about it. I want him to be able to get past this “mental block” before our relationship is damaged further. submitted by /u/mechanical_fish_ [link] [comments]
When we were dating I (27F) was on birth control and my sex drive was really low and it was very difficult to make me cum. Every time he (28M) would try giving me head or using his fingers it wouldn’t work and I would eventually ask him to stop & just take care of him. It was frustrating for both of us and eventually he stopped trying, expecting the same result every time.
Now, it has been almost 8 months since I’ve quit birth control and my labido is increasing and it has been easier to make myself cum. When I communicated this to him and asked that he do more for me, he got a little defensive and weird. Saying there was a “mental block” around making me cum. He doesn’t act interested in pleasing me sexually and it is of course affecting my self confidence and our relationship. I make him cum almost every single night, then I wait for him to fall asleep and take care of myself. I’ve told him that a little bit of resentment is building in me, it doesn’t feel fair that it is my responsibility to make us both cum. And lately I’ve been wanting to make him cum less as a kind of “see how you like it” which is unhealthy and not how I’d like to be.
I guess my question is, how can I encourage him to want to please me without complaining to him about it. I want him to be able to get past this “mental block” before our relationship is damaged further.
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