Boyfriend initiates sex when he’s asleep /u/thatniagarachick Sex

I (27F) am having some concerns about things with my boyfriend (28M).

I sleep over on weekends at his place, and since we started dating he initiates sex while he’s sleeping. He sleep talks and has full out conversations, it’s literally impossible to tell whether he’s genuinely awake or asleep. But most times when we do it, he gets mad at me after and claims he didn’t give consent. He claims he’s woken up to me giving him head or pulling his boxers down, yet prior to me doing that he’s seemed COMPLETELY awake and does things to me as well (which I’m fine with). But basically.. this is the latest incident which was last night.

He rolled over and said he wanted to do anal, I think I asked him “you want to do that right now?” and he said yes, so I pulled his boxers down and started going down on him. I asked him if he was awake, he said yes, he wasn’t getting it up so I stopped and said “it doesn’t really feel like you’re in the mood” and laid back down.

Then he said he wanted chips, I went and got him chips, I gently tossed them beside him. He yelled at said not to throw chips at him, I opened the bag and then he said not to open them (not very nicely). He said if I was gonna keep him awake after a long week, I could pack my things and go home. So I started packing because at this point I was over the chip scenario, he apologized and said to stay.

Morning comes, we have a conversation, he says I sexually assaulted him, he also said I got MAD when I said “i don’t think you’re in the mood”. I wasn’t mad at all, I explain my point of view. I said I don’t think it’s a good idea that I sleep over anymore because I’m tired of the sleep-sex-scenario thing. He says that it’ll negatively effect our relationship, so I said that after he initially falls asleep- all sex is off the table and I won’t let anything happen anymore.

What do I make of this? What do I do, am I in the wrong? There’s been times I’ve woken up to him doing things to me, which is fine because I’m into that sort of thing and he has my consent. There’s been times he says he was awake, then times he wasn’t. Help lol.

I (27F) am having some concerns about things with my boyfriend (28M).

I sleep over on weekends at his place, and since we started dating he initiates sex while he’s sleeping. He sleep talks and has full out conversations, it’s literally impossible to tell whether he’s genuinely awake or asleep. But most times when we do it, he gets mad at me after and claims he didn’t give consent. He claims he’s woken up to me giving him head or pulling his boxers down, yet prior to me doing that he’s seemed COMPLETELY awake and does things to me as well (which I’m fine with). But basically.. this is the latest incident which was last night.

He rolled over and said he wanted to do anal, I think I asked him “you want to do that right now?” and he said yes, so I pulled his boxers down and started going down on him. I asked him if he was awake, he said yes, he wasn’t getting it up so I stopped and said “it doesn’t really feel like you’re in the mood” and laid back down.

Then he said he wanted chips, I went and got him chips, I gently tossed them beside him. He yelled at said not to throw chips at him, I opened the bag and then he said not to open them (not very nicely). He said if I was gonna keep him awake after a long week, I could pack my things and go home. So I started packing because at this point I was over the chip scenario, he apologized and said to stay.

Morning comes, we have a conversation, he says I sexually assaulted him, he also said I got MAD when I said “i don’t think you’re in the mood”. I wasn’t mad at all, I explain my point of view. I said I don’t think it’s a good idea that I sleep over anymore because I’m tired of the sleep-sex-scenario thing. He says that it’ll negatively effect our relationship, so I said that after he initially falls asleep- all sex is off the table and I won’t let anything happen anymore.

What do I make of this? What do I do, am I in the wrong? There’s been times I’ve woken up to him doing things to me, which is fine because I’m into that sort of thing and he has my consent. There’s been times he says he was awake, then times he wasn’t. Help lol.