How can we use porn in a healthy way in our relationship? /u/ThrowRAListen2 Sex

This is a complicated discussion, but let’s have it.

Do you think there could ever be a version of porn that could be “healthy” to watch? After watching porn off and on for years, I had to accept how porn made me feel, which was always very empty and disturbed after the fact. (There has been only one very notable exception to this, and I can explain more if people ask.)

I tell people this, and they say it was the porn I was watching that was toxic, not porn in itself. I don’t know how people define toxic vs healthy porn, but to me, I don’t think the average mainstream porn is healthy to consume.

Yet—if I had a partner I deeply loved and trusted and we both invested most of our sexual energy into our IRL relationship—I would not be opposed to them occasionally watching porn, but I don’t know how that could look like in a healthy way.

Would you have ideas or any helpful thoughts on this as a whole?

This is a complicated discussion, but let’s have it.

Do you think there could ever be a version of porn that could be “healthy” to watch? After watching porn off and on for years, I had to accept how porn made me feel, which was always very empty and disturbed after the fact. (There has been only one very notable exception to this, and I can explain more if people ask.)

I tell people this, and they say it was the porn I was watching that was toxic, not porn in itself. I don’t know how people define toxic vs healthy porn, but to me, I don’t think the average mainstream porn is healthy to consume.

Yet—if I had a partner I deeply loved and trusted and we both invested most of our sexual energy into our IRL relationship—I would not be opposed to them occasionally watching porn, but I don’t know how that could look like in a healthy way.

Would you have ideas or any helpful thoughts on this as a whole?