Partner doesn’t want an intimacy with me anymore /u/Unfair-Secretary-491 Sex

I (27M) don’t know how to approach my partner (33F) about our sex life anymore. We have been together for 2 and a half years, the first couple of months of our relationship were the happiest days of my life. I have never felt more at home with someone in my life, our sex love was fantastic and I truly felt wanted. Some early red flags I guess regarding this aspect of our relationship was about 4 months into our relationship. I had started to notice a pretty big decline in the desire on her end to be intimate with me. We were both really happy and I hadn’t noticed any other kind of change in her or our relationship so I was quite caught off guard when I was starting to consistently get rejected. I asked her if everything was ok and she said she was fine but that she felt the honeymoon phase was over. This was really hard for me to hear as I was still crazy for her! That said I was really committed to her so at the time agreed that we should settle of cutting down on how much we were having sex so she felt comfortable and not pressured. We went from having sex sometimes two times a day to maybe 1-2 times a week. Well shortly after she fell pregnant and over the course of her pregnancy, sex stopped completely. This was a hard adjustment but totally understood she was carrying our baby and that it should be the last thing for her to be worrying about during this time. We now have a one year old and he’s wonderful and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Since giving birth though things just haven’t changed at all and over the past few months it’s started to become a really issue for us. At this stage sex isn’t even on my mind as even kissing her I get pushed off. She says she is simply just too tired and just doesn’t have the energy to give to me anymore. I work 11-13 hour days as she wanted to be a stay at home mom so I started up my own business so that she doesn’t have the stress of finances, when I am home I do all the house work as she can’t get to it as she is too tired from looking after our son (when I’m home and not busy with housework I look after him as well). Any attempt to discuss the issue I am made to feel guilty about asking. I feel so trapped and helpless with it all it has started to take a toll on my physical health and I no longer know what to do. She doesn’t seem to think it’s a big issue but it’s destroying me. Am I justified in feeling so distressed over this? I don’t know I guess I needed to vent

I (27M) don’t know how to approach my partner (33F) about our sex life anymore. We have been together for 2 and a half years, the first couple of months of our relationship were the happiest days of my life. I have never felt more at home with someone in my life, our sex love was fantastic and I truly felt wanted. Some early red flags I guess regarding this aspect of our relationship was about 4 months into our relationship. I had started to notice a pretty big decline in the desire on her end to be intimate with me. We were both really happy and I hadn’t noticed any other kind of change in her or our relationship so I was quite caught off guard when I was starting to consistently get rejected. I asked her if everything was ok and she said she was fine but that she felt the honeymoon phase was over. This was really hard for me to hear as I was still crazy for her! That said I was really committed to her so at the time agreed that we should settle of cutting down on how much we were having sex so she felt comfortable and not pressured. We went from having sex sometimes two times a day to maybe 1-2 times a week. Well shortly after she fell pregnant and over the course of her pregnancy, sex stopped completely. This was a hard adjustment but totally understood she was carrying our baby and that it should be the last thing for her to be worrying about during this time. We now have a one year old and he’s wonderful and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Since giving birth though things just haven’t changed at all and over the past few months it’s started to become a really issue for us. At this stage sex isn’t even on my mind as even kissing her I get pushed off. She says she is simply just too tired and just doesn’t have the energy to give to me anymore. I work 11-13 hour days as she wanted to be a stay at home mom so I started up my own business so that she doesn’t have the stress of finances, when I am home I do all the house work as she can’t get to it as she is too tired from looking after our son (when I’m home and not busy with housework I look after him as well). Any attempt to discuss the issue I am made to feel guilty about asking. I feel so trapped and helpless with it all it has started to take a toll on my physical health and I no longer know what to do. She doesn’t seem to think it’s a big issue but it’s destroying me. Am I justified in feeling so distressed over this? I don’t know I guess I needed to vent