I see my bf more as a baby than a lover… /u/Jamoeee Sex

Hi 🙂

This is my first relationship I’ve ever been in and we’ve been together for 9 months. I’m (F18) and he’s M(21)

When I say treat him like a baby I don’t mean a literal baby or like ddlg. I mean I put myself I’m the mindset on as if I’m talking to a child, like a 1st grade teacher. I explained in depth on how his behavior makes me switch into “this is a child” mode on another post. I’ll make this quick.

This is a big problem for when he wants to have sex…I’ve only recently turned on this mindset but idk how to turn it off.

— LORE YOU COULD SKIP —

When it comes to sex he doesn’t really do the things that get me going and doesn’t let me do the things I enjoy either. We’re both switches so when it’s his turn he want slow and romantic stuff. But when I try to get into the mood to dominate I wanna have fun like light wrestling, tickling, ass slapping, biting, a back and forth role-play or laughing overall. He doesn’t like that and tells me, “your killing the mood.” So instead I just sit there quietly and see everything like I’m playing professional doctor and observing the body, which isn’t fun on my side but he enjoys it. It ends up feeling like a chore…

And when it’s my turn, he does the same thing of just dry rubbing, kissing my lips, testing my leg flexibility, then just yanking my pants off. That’s the foreplay, and then it’s instant go time. This does nothing for me, and I already told him multiple times what I like and into..

I’m starting to think if I keep the wholesome mindset of “I need to take care of him”, then I can avoid disappointment or fulfill his needs better. But I don’t see him as a man, and that’s the problem. I don’t wanna participate in sexual activities with someone I view as baby.

I know there’s kinks out there in that nature, but I can’t incorporate those into our moments because he’s not into that at all. I would try and make fun of the way I think of him like, ” Mommy’s got your milkies” but he completely ignores my chest and goes for my butt. Even if I was joking, he wouldn’t be comfortable with it. — END OF LORE —

Any advice on how I can try and turn this mindset off? 🙁

Thank you for reading this far <3

Hi 🙂

This is my first relationship I’ve ever been in and we’ve been together for 9 months. I’m (F18) and he’s M(21)

When I say treat him like a baby I don’t mean a literal baby or like ddlg. I mean I put myself I’m the mindset on as if I’m talking to a child, like a 1st grade teacher. I explained in depth on how his behavior makes me switch into “this is a child” mode on another post. I’ll make this quick.

This is a big problem for when he wants to have sex…I’ve only recently turned on this mindset but idk how to turn it off.

— LORE YOU COULD SKIP —

When it comes to sex he doesn’t really do the things that get me going and doesn’t let me do the things I enjoy either. We’re both switches so when it’s his turn he want slow and romantic stuff. But when I try to get into the mood to dominate I wanna have fun like light wrestling, tickling, ass slapping, biting, a back and forth role-play or laughing overall. He doesn’t like that and tells me, “your killing the mood.” So instead I just sit there quietly and see everything like I’m playing professional doctor and observing the body, which isn’t fun on my side but he enjoys it. It ends up feeling like a chore…

And when it’s my turn, he does the same thing of just dry rubbing, kissing my lips, testing my leg flexibility, then just yanking my pants off. That’s the foreplay, and then it’s instant go time. This does nothing for me, and I already told him multiple times what I like and into..

I’m starting to think if I keep the wholesome mindset of “I need to take care of him”, then I can avoid disappointment or fulfill his needs better. But I don’t see him as a man, and that’s the problem. I don’t wanna participate in sexual activities with someone I view as baby.

I know there’s kinks out there in that nature, but I can’t incorporate those into our moments because he’s not into that at all. I would try and make fun of the way I think of him like, ” Mommy’s got your milkies” but he completely ignores my chest and goes for my butt. Even if I was joking, he wouldn’t be comfortable with it. — END OF LORE —

Any advice on how I can try and turn this mindset off? 🙁

Thank you for reading this far <3