Getting sexually rejected by my husband /u/Wolfie3295 Sex

I’m (27f) newly married (4 months) to (m32) and I think my husband doesn’t like having sex with me anymore. I feel like our sex life is slacking since before. And we’re only 4 months in- I don’t know how it’s going to be later.

A week before our honeymoon we only had sex once. Then returning from there,my husbands eardrum nearly busted. He had terrible pain and said his ear feels full all the time. This was a little over a month ago. Since then it’s gotten better and he says there are good days and bad. However in this 6 week span, we only have sex once a week. I did talk to him about or lack of sex and he said it’s due to his ear and Also his 15lb weight gain since the wedding makes him feel gross and also un energetic.

At first I believed him, but now im starting to wonder if he’s using it as an excuse. This morning I offered a BJ and he rejected me. I’ve lost count of the number of times he’s rejected me at this point. We use to have sex every time we’d shower together. And lately the last couple of times he joins me in the shower, and nothing happens.

I don’t think he’s cheating. I haven’t had any proof of that or any signs. But, you never ever truly know, ya know.

I’m not sure if I’m the one at fault for wanting to have more sex, or if there’s something else he’s not telling me. He use to initiate more and now it feels like nothing. If I bring it up, it will be the 3rd time I bring it up in the past 2 months and I’ll lose my mind. I feel rejected and unwanted and unhappy. I don’t know what to make of this or do. I asked him if he has any fantasies or wishes and he said he likes it now and there isn’t anything he wanted to try.

I’m (27f) newly married (4 months) to (m32) and I think my husband doesn’t like having sex with me anymore. I feel like our sex life is slacking since before. And we’re only 4 months in- I don’t know how it’s going to be later.

A week before our honeymoon we only had sex once. Then returning from there,my husbands eardrum nearly busted. He had terrible pain and said his ear feels full all the time. This was a little over a month ago. Since then it’s gotten better and he says there are good days and bad. However in this 6 week span, we only have sex once a week. I did talk to him about or lack of sex and he said it’s due to his ear and Also his 15lb weight gain since the wedding makes him feel gross and also un energetic.

At first I believed him, but now im starting to wonder if he’s using it as an excuse. This morning I offered a BJ and he rejected me. I’ve lost count of the number of times he’s rejected me at this point. We use to have sex every time we’d shower together. And lately the last couple of times he joins me in the shower, and nothing happens.

I don’t think he’s cheating. I haven’t had any proof of that or any signs. But, you never ever truly know, ya know.

I’m not sure if I’m the one at fault for wanting to have more sex, or if there’s something else he’s not telling me. He use to initiate more and now it feels like nothing. If I bring it up, it will be the 3rd time I bring it up in the past 2 months and I’ll lose my mind. I feel rejected and unwanted and unhappy. I don’t know what to make of this or do. I asked him if he has any fantasies or wishes and he said he likes it now and there isn’t anything he wanted to try.