I (22m) have no problem with erections with my (18f) gf but when we get to PIV i just lose it… /u/throwaway64828ee Sex

Throwaway account.

As the title says i recently met an amazing girl, we hanged around she is 100% my type we have good chemistry and i thought everything was going well and it was until we “had” sex.

Im writing this to just vent honestly, so we tried twice so far. The first time we had okay foreplay cuz we didn’t know who liked what and the sex just happend none of us were expecting it, cuddling just led to it, i was supposed to get it in her and the erection just wasn’t there. I was fucking shocked and dissapointed i honestly felt worthless it was such a gut wrenching feeling i had cuz i was not able to please her no matter how much i wanted it to happen, after 10-15 minutes of jerking my self off i put it in her and i last maybe like 2 minutes if that even, it is what is.

Second time the foreplay was much more intense i was so fucking hard grinding on her wet pussy with my boxers on and the moment i took my boxers off poof my erection is gone. So 10-15minutes later we are laying naked kissing she kisses my neck and i get hard and at that point i didn’t want to put it in with no condom on cuz i knew i will just fucking blow my load in a matter of seconds. She just gave me a blow job i came and that was that.

Now my problem is that when im with her and nothing sexual is going on i am getting hard all the time, she can touch my quad and i will get an erection no problem, we can have intense foreplay im hard but the moment im expected to perform there is no erection.

I’ve had 2 sex partners before her and never once did i have this problem, the only problem i had and continue to have is that i just cum quick and i think it’s in my subconcious mind and it’s bothering me that if i cum quick i won’t satisfy her sexual needs and i guess that’s maybe why i just lose my erections. I talked to a couple of friends on how long they last and it goes from 6-7 minutes to dudes claiming 20-30 minutes easily (i know some dudes lie but not all of them do so yea)

My current partner said she can only cum from PIV and me knowing i can’t last long probably affects me without me even knowing it.

I just want to last long enough to make her have a body shaking orgasm, and she told me it’s not a big deal but i just can’t get it out of my mind. I can’t accept that she is not getting satisfied and with that im also not satisfied.

I don’t watch porn i didnt masturbate for the entire time i was seeing her (around 2 weeks) and im an active dude that does sports i feel like i should be able to last at least 10 minutes but i just fucking CAN’T.

How can i help myself with this, i guess it’s mental im hoping time will just solve this by itself but im also kinda scared that each time i don’t get hard it will get me scared more and more, i was thinking of taking viagra just to have actual proper sex even if i cum faster than it takes Hamilton to lap Monza.

Is there anyone here who came quick but “cured” himself from it, i just get so into it i hear her moan and i just fucking lose it how can i control myself (tried kegel work and all that bullshit, didn’t work)

Help me dudes.

Throwaway account.

As the title says i recently met an amazing girl, we hanged around she is 100% my type we have good chemistry and i thought everything was going well and it was until we “had” sex.

Im writing this to just vent honestly, so we tried twice so far. The first time we had okay foreplay cuz we didn’t know who liked what and the sex just happend none of us were expecting it, cuddling just led to it, i was supposed to get it in her and the erection just wasn’t there. I was fucking shocked and dissapointed i honestly felt worthless it was such a gut wrenching feeling i had cuz i was not able to please her no matter how much i wanted it to happen, after 10-15 minutes of jerking my self off i put it in her and i last maybe like 2 minutes if that even, it is what is.

Second time the foreplay was much more intense i was so fucking hard grinding on her wet pussy with my boxers on and the moment i took my boxers off poof my erection is gone. So 10-15minutes later we are laying naked kissing she kisses my neck and i get hard and at that point i didn’t want to put it in with no condom on cuz i knew i will just fucking blow my load in a matter of seconds. She just gave me a blow job i came and that was that.

Now my problem is that when im with her and nothing sexual is going on i am getting hard all the time, she can touch my quad and i will get an erection no problem, we can have intense foreplay im hard but the moment im expected to perform there is no erection.

I’ve had 2 sex partners before her and never once did i have this problem, the only problem i had and continue to have is that i just cum quick and i think it’s in my subconcious mind and it’s bothering me that if i cum quick i won’t satisfy her sexual needs and i guess that’s maybe why i just lose my erections. I talked to a couple of friends on how long they last and it goes from 6-7 minutes to dudes claiming 20-30 minutes easily (i know some dudes lie but not all of them do so yea)

My current partner said she can only cum from PIV and me knowing i can’t last long probably affects me without me even knowing it.

I just want to last long enough to make her have a body shaking orgasm, and she told me it’s not a big deal but i just can’t get it out of my mind. I can’t accept that she is not getting satisfied and with that im also not satisfied.

I don’t watch porn i didnt masturbate for the entire time i was seeing her (around 2 weeks) and im an active dude that does sports i feel like i should be able to last at least 10 minutes but i just fucking CAN’T.

How can i help myself with this, i guess it’s mental im hoping time will just solve this by itself but im also kinda scared that each time i don’t get hard it will get me scared more and more, i was thinking of taking viagra just to have actual proper sex even if i cum faster than it takes Hamilton to lap Monza.

Is there anyone here who came quick but “cured” himself from it, i just get so into it i hear her moan and i just fucking lose it how can i control myself (tried kegel work and all that bullshit, didn’t work)

Help me dudes.