how do you deal with sex anxiety? /u/yoshibites Sex

i 20(f) have always always struggled with sex anxiety. for me its not the pressure to perform or look good, its trying to enjoy it. in the past i used to force myself to have sex with my partner, i have a very low libido and i always guilted myself for it. when i confessed to my partner it broke him, now i’m always honest and i dont force myself, but now its like we never have sex. i feel so bad because this is our twentys, this is the time where we’re supposed to be “fucking like rabbits”, i cried to him last night. hes so supportive and doesnt push me but deep down i know he isn’t satisfied. the problem i have is that i cant just focus. i cant focus on his touch on my hormones on enjoying the moment because the entire time im in the moment my head is filled with, “are u actually enjoying this? are you forcing yourself? are you sure you wanna do this” over and over. “just breath and focus on his hands. focus focus focus” and that is the absolute last thing i can do is focus. i used to have a stronger libido, when we first got together, i feel like after i confessed to him my anxiety started, ik im attracted to him. i know i want him and i love him but i dont know how to clear my head in the act. is therapy my only option? i also struggle with wetness which i feel very slightly contributes to my anxiety

i 20(f) have always always struggled with sex anxiety. for me its not the pressure to perform or look good, its trying to enjoy it. in the past i used to force myself to have sex with my partner, i have a very low libido and i always guilted myself for it. when i confessed to my partner it broke him, now i’m always honest and i dont force myself, but now its like we never have sex. i feel so bad because this is our twentys, this is the time where we’re supposed to be “fucking like rabbits”, i cried to him last night. hes so supportive and doesnt push me but deep down i know he isn’t satisfied. the problem i have is that i cant just focus. i cant focus on his touch on my hormones on enjoying the moment because the entire time im in the moment my head is filled with, “are u actually enjoying this? are you forcing yourself? are you sure you wanna do this” over and over. “just breath and focus on his hands. focus focus focus” and that is the absolute last thing i can do is focus. i used to have a stronger libido, when we first got together, i feel like after i confessed to him my anxiety started, ik im attracted to him. i know i want him and i love him but i dont know how to clear my head in the act. is therapy my only option? i also struggle with wetness which i feel very slightly contributes to my anxiety