My husband is a very sex-oriented man. He always has been. He’s had many partners and makes it known. He’s a regular porn user as well.
The sex is not good. It’s boring and can be painful. It’s wet and smelly and very porn-like (“do you like it big?” “Is it the biggest dick you’ve ever seen?”, sticking fingers in my mouth which I don’t understand at all).
We have basically two positions: missionary and doggy. There’s no foreplay as it’s painful for me to be touched down there and I don’t like the smell/taste of him. I dislike giving bjs for other reasons, too.
He’s constantly comparing me to previous partners, too: “oh well my other partners liked it so you’re just weird for not liking it”, “everybody else has cum from PIV, you’re the only person who can’t”, “nobody else ever needed a toy in bed with me”
He used to require sex 3-4 times a week. He loosened up on that and it’s now more like once a week to once every couple weeks that we do it and he doesn’t “require” it on a certain frequency (we also have two toddlers now).
I could go 6+ months without any, easily.
We’re sexually incompatible. We have been together for 6 years, married for 4.5 years.
This isn’t a hurdle I can jump, is it? I can’t just “get over” not enjoying sex and he certainly shouldn’t be expected to go without.
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r/sex My husband is a very sex-oriented man. He always has been. He’s had many partners and makes it known. He’s a regular porn user as well. The sex is not good. It’s boring and can be painful. It’s wet and smelly and very porn-like (“do you like it big?” “Is it the biggest dick you’ve ever seen?”, sticking fingers in my mouth which I don’t understand at all). We have basically two positions: missionary and doggy. There’s no foreplay as it’s painful for me to be touched down there and I don’t like the smell/taste of him. I dislike giving bjs for other reasons, too. He’s constantly comparing me to previous partners, too: “oh well my other partners liked it so you’re just weird for not liking it”, “everybody else has cum from PIV, you’re the only person who can’t”, “nobody else ever needed a toy in bed with me” He used to require sex 3-4 times a week. He loosened up on that and it’s now more like once a week to once every couple weeks that we do it and he doesn’t “require” it on a certain frequency (we also have two toddlers now). I could go 6+ months without any, easily. We’re sexually incompatible. We have been together for 6 years, married for 4.5 years. This isn’t a hurdle I can jump, is it? I can’t just “get over” not enjoying sex and he certainly shouldn’t be expected to go without. submitted by /u/FlatFold5390 [link] [comments]
My husband is a very sex-oriented man. He always has been. He’s had many partners and makes it known. He’s a regular porn user as well.
The sex is not good. It’s boring and can be painful. It’s wet and smelly and very porn-like (“do you like it big?” “Is it the biggest dick you’ve ever seen?”, sticking fingers in my mouth which I don’t understand at all).
We have basically two positions: missionary and doggy. There’s no foreplay as it’s painful for me to be touched down there and I don’t like the smell/taste of him. I dislike giving bjs for other reasons, too.
He’s constantly comparing me to previous partners, too: “oh well my other partners liked it so you’re just weird for not liking it”, “everybody else has cum from PIV, you’re the only person who can’t”, “nobody else ever needed a toy in bed with me”
He used to require sex 3-4 times a week. He loosened up on that and it’s now more like once a week to once every couple weeks that we do it and he doesn’t “require” it on a certain frequency (we also have two toddlers now).
I could go 6+ months without any, easily.
We’re sexually incompatible. We have been together for 6 years, married for 4.5 years.
This isn’t a hurdle I can jump, is it? I can’t just “get over” not enjoying sex and he certainly shouldn’t be expected to go without.
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