Advice needed; My boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me. /u/Equivalent_Peanut635 Sex

My BF (28M) and me (26F) have been dating for a couple of months. It started off as more of a casual thing and has gotten more serious to the point where we both want a relationship. After I denied him on the first two dates, on the third date we slept together and it was my first time ever, only I hadn’t told him that because I was a little embarrassed to be a virgin at my age and I didn’t want to scare him. For reference, I found out after we had sex that he has a really really high body count so now I feel even less inclined to tell him it was my first time.

Anyways, during the act itself, obviously, I had no idea what I was doing so I kinda just laid there and let him do his thing and I thought the whole thing went okay, not amazing but average I thought. Well afterwards everything continues as fine at first, we continue to go on dates and get more and more attached to each other, but after 6 weeks since the night we hooked up it dawns on me that we haven’t had sex one time since, and that he hasn’t even tried to hook up with me again. One day we’re talking and he asks me about that night and how it was for me, I say I had a good time, he then proceeds to tell me that he had a hard time finishing because I was just laying there doing nothing. He didn’t flat-out tell me the sex was awful but it’s heavily implied so of course, I’m feeling insecure now. Not to mention he’s the type of guy that’s constantly talking about sex so a few days later we’re talking again and he just casually starts to tell me about the best sex he’s ever had, which wasn’t with me but with this girl he had a one night stand with before we met.

I find the whole situation weird because if the sex was that bad then why is he trying to be in a relationship with me? He already told me he loves me, he sees a future with me, and considers us to be BF and GF. I finally confronted him and told him that I feel like he just really really doesn’t want to have sex with me and he didn’t confirm nor deny that I was right but just told me that he thought it was weird that I was upset with him for the fact that “we’re not hooking up”.

Part of me thinks we should break up because why would I want to be with a guy who doesn’t want to be intimate with me? Or maybe I’m just being dramatic and it’s totally normal for a guy to want to go 6 plus weeks without having sex with his girlfriend? And then part of me thinks I should tell him I was a virgin but I don’t want to have to tell him the reason why I waited so long to have sex because it’s really personal and has to do with healing from the trauma of SA as a kid, which I’m just not ready to talk about. Any advice would be appreciated. TYIA!

My BF (28M) and me (26F) have been dating for a couple of months. It started off as more of a casual thing and has gotten more serious to the point where we both want a relationship. After I denied him on the first two dates, on the third date we slept together and it was my first time ever, only I hadn’t told him that because I was a little embarrassed to be a virgin at my age and I didn’t want to scare him. For reference, I found out after we had sex that he has a really really high body count so now I feel even less inclined to tell him it was my first time.

Anyways, during the act itself, obviously, I had no idea what I was doing so I kinda just laid there and let him do his thing and I thought the whole thing went okay, not amazing but average I thought. Well afterwards everything continues as fine at first, we continue to go on dates and get more and more attached to each other, but after 6 weeks since the night we hooked up it dawns on me that we haven’t had sex one time since, and that he hasn’t even tried to hook up with me again. One day we’re talking and he asks me about that night and how it was for me, I say I had a good time, he then proceeds to tell me that he had a hard time finishing because I was just laying there doing nothing. He didn’t flat-out tell me the sex was awful but it’s heavily implied so of course, I’m feeling insecure now. Not to mention he’s the type of guy that’s constantly talking about sex so a few days later we’re talking again and he just casually starts to tell me about the best sex he’s ever had, which wasn’t with me but with this girl he had a one night stand with before we met.

I find the whole situation weird because if the sex was that bad then why is he trying to be in a relationship with me? He already told me he loves me, he sees a future with me, and considers us to be BF and GF. I finally confronted him and told him that I feel like he just really really doesn’t want to have sex with me and he didn’t confirm nor deny that I was right but just told me that he thought it was weird that I was upset with him for the fact that “we’re not hooking up”.

Part of me thinks we should break up because why would I want to be with a guy who doesn’t want to be intimate with me? Or maybe I’m just being dramatic and it’s totally normal for a guy to want to go 6 plus weeks without having sex with his girlfriend? And then part of me thinks I should tell him I was a virgin but I don’t want to have to tell him the reason why I waited so long to have sex because it’s really personal and has to do with healing from the trauma of SA as a kid, which I’m just not ready to talk about. Any advice would be appreciated. TYIA!