Somewhat awkward question regarding where to uh, climax, with casual sex/hookups (and specifically blowjobs) /u/TheFriendlyFuckup Sex

tl;dr at the top: I’m concerned about where to cum/cumshot etiquette and what might be seen as rude/paranoid in a casual hookup sense?

I’m M age 30.

Recently got divorced. Ex-wife was my “first” in many ways. Our sex life was good/varied, not the reason the relationship ended. I have no casual sex or even really dating experience apart from her.

Recently been putting myself back out there in terms of acquaintances met through friends of friends at work, hobbies, etc.

I’ve had a couple of women express interest in no uncertain terms for casual hookups of generally, including one recent example when a house party was winding down and a woman and I kept talking.

She indicated that a bedroom nearby was empty and we had a clear shot to head over there.

I waved it off by stating I didn’t have a condom (actually not true, I did have one on me), but she laughed and said “not an issue, I just want to suck your dick.”

Well, that sounded great obviously, but I still made an excuse (about the homeowner maybe not being cool with us having a rendezvous in a spare room, probably true to some extent but yeah).

Sort of kicking myself generally for that, but my true fear and why I declined is frankly I am a bit unsure about where I would cum, and frankly paranoid (this is embarrassing to admit…) of being trapped in an accidental pregnancy situation if someone were to, uh, misuse or move my cum? Obviously assuming I came on her body or face or something at her request.

I also am just inexperienced enough generally, outside of the obviously contrived and not to be replicated world of porn, what even is the norm for a blowjob, or sex for that matter? Should I come in my trousers and just do some hasty laundry when I get home? In my hand and make a walk to the bathroom for cleanup?

I’m not above admitting that I find the facial cumshots and even swallowing beyond hot, but I lack real world context for this and also am a bit paranoid. If was getting a blowjob and indicated I was almost there and she asks me to cum on her body, as ridiculous as it sounds I might be afraid to do that, and in turn afraid of hurting her feelings…

This applies to full sex of course too, but assuming I’m using a condom I would just assume I would cum in it, tie it off, and dispose of it myself.

There you have it, feel free to roast me for this haha, but would love some advice from experience, either from the woman’s or guy’s perspective. Thanks.

tl;dr at the top: I’m concerned about where to cum/cumshot etiquette and what might be seen as rude/paranoid in a casual hookup sense?

I’m M age 30.

Recently got divorced. Ex-wife was my “first” in many ways. Our sex life was good/varied, not the reason the relationship ended. I have no casual sex or even really dating experience apart from her.

Recently been putting myself back out there in terms of acquaintances met through friends of friends at work, hobbies, etc.

I’ve had a couple of women express interest in no uncertain terms for casual hookups of generally, including one recent example when a house party was winding down and a woman and I kept talking.

She indicated that a bedroom nearby was empty and we had a clear shot to head over there.

I waved it off by stating I didn’t have a condom (actually not true, I did have one on me), but she laughed and said “not an issue, I just want to suck your dick.”

Well, that sounded great obviously, but I still made an excuse (about the homeowner maybe not being cool with us having a rendezvous in a spare room, probably true to some extent but yeah).

Sort of kicking myself generally for that, but my true fear and why I declined is frankly I am a bit unsure about where I would cum, and frankly paranoid (this is embarrassing to admit…) of being trapped in an accidental pregnancy situation if someone were to, uh, misuse or move my cum? Obviously assuming I came on her body or face or something at her request.

I also am just inexperienced enough generally, outside of the obviously contrived and not to be replicated world of porn, what even is the norm for a blowjob, or sex for that matter? Should I come in my trousers and just do some hasty laundry when I get home? In my hand and make a walk to the bathroom for cleanup?

I’m not above admitting that I find the facial cumshots and even swallowing beyond hot, but I lack real world context for this and also am a bit paranoid. If was getting a blowjob and indicated I was almost there and she asks me to cum on her body, as ridiculous as it sounds I might be afraid to do that, and in turn afraid of hurting her feelings…

This applies to full sex of course too, but assuming I’m using a condom I would just assume I would cum in it, tie it off, and dispose of it myself.

There you have it, feel free to roast me for this haha, but would love some advice from experience, either from the woman’s or guy’s perspective. Thanks.