I haven’t had sex with my husband in over a year, and I’m ok with it. /u/Sufficient-Data-9962 Sex

So when I met my now husband in 2017 we were intimate very frequently. He was a speed addict. I told him the only way we could ever have a life together is if he stopped using drugs. So he made the choice to stay with me and he quit. Although he did relapse a few times he’s been sober since 2020. Unfortunately, we found out that he is rarely able to preform without drugs. So we would try to have sex once a week, then it was once a month, once every couple months, and now we just haven’t tried in over a year. He just says he doesn’t have the desire. I explained my needs and we decided to explore an open relationship, which was fine. I saw someone for a little while. He didn’t see anyone else. I decided to break things off with the person because I realized I only want to have sex with someone I love. It was fun at first but just started to feel empty. My husband had a hard childhood, neglect from his parents and he suffered sexual abuse by a teenager when he was just a child. Shortly after I ended the relationship with the other person I was seeing he told me that he had slept with someone else, a trans woman. This didn’t bother me. He’s unsure of his sexuality, he doesn’t think he’s gay or straight. And I feel like he may be asexual. Or it might be the trauma from his childhood. I don’t know. This is the best relationship I’ve ever been in. He makes me feel so loved in a way I never thought was possible. He’s a great step dad, partner, and my best friend. Although I’ve come to terms that we probably won’t be having sex anytime soon I do miss it. Have any of you dealt with anything like this? Any advice?

So when I met my now husband in 2017 we were intimate very frequently. He was a speed addict. I told him the only way we could ever have a life together is if he stopped using drugs. So he made the choice to stay with me and he quit. Although he did relapse a few times he’s been sober since 2020. Unfortunately, we found out that he is rarely able to preform without drugs. So we would try to have sex once a week, then it was once a month, once every couple months, and now we just haven’t tried in over a year. He just says he doesn’t have the desire. I explained my needs and we decided to explore an open relationship, which was fine. I saw someone for a little while. He didn’t see anyone else. I decided to break things off with the person because I realized I only want to have sex with someone I love. It was fun at first but just started to feel empty. My husband had a hard childhood, neglect from his parents and he suffered sexual abuse by a teenager when he was just a child. Shortly after I ended the relationship with the other person I was seeing he told me that he had slept with someone else, a trans woman. This didn’t bother me. He’s unsure of his sexuality, he doesn’t think he’s gay or straight. And I feel like he may be asexual. Or it might be the trauma from his childhood. I don’t know. This is the best relationship I’ve ever been in. He makes me feel so loved in a way I never thought was possible. He’s a great step dad, partner, and my best friend. Although I’ve come to terms that we probably won’t be having sex anytime soon I do miss it. Have any of you dealt with anything like this? Any advice?