Any tips for how to get my bf interested in blowjobs? /u/bratintensifies Sex

My boyfriend enjoys blowjobs, but I love them. When we first started dating, he was super over the moon about it because I would ask him almost daily if I could give him one. Eventually I realized he never returned oral so I stopped offering as much, but I still blew him every time we had sex. And then eventually we stopped having sex. We went to therapy for it and conquered it, somewhat I think.

Recently, our sex life has started to get back to normal, but now my perspective on blowjobs are different. At the start of our relationship, it was because I wanted to give him as much pleasure as possible, and just because I liked it so much. But now, it’s almost therapeutic for me.

I lost my job two weeks before Christmas and after applying to 30+ jobs, I finally secured a part-time minimum wage job. I’ve done nothing but stay home, clean, and apply to every job known to man. And occasionally play RockBand for 6 hours straight. So by the time my boyfriend comes home, it’s like my brain has been deep-fried into a state of anxiety because throughout my day, I’m only thinking about my bills that need to get paid.

I want him to come home and use my mouth, basically. I want him to tell me to focus on nothing but him and his dick. I want him to essentially just use me for his pleasure, and give me a solid 30 minutes where I have literally nothing else to think about because I’m busy gasping and gagging for air. But my boyfriend has always been nervous of initiating, he has this pattern of only being able to become aroused after 11pm, and he’s also a sub. Like I mean a serious sub. I had to learn how to become a Mistress or else we weren’t going to have sex because he is essentially a guy version of a pillow princess.

So how do I ask him to start being more dominant? I just want him to use me. He knows what I’d like. We’ve had this conversation many times before. I guess I’m just looking for maybe the right way to ask him, so it clicks for him? I don’t want to have to use the Mistress card (ie “Your Mistress wants…”) because then it feels like he’s still the sub when I want to be the sub for once. How do I get him comfortable when being physical earlier than just when we’ve gone to bed?

My boyfriend enjoys blowjobs, but I love them. When we first started dating, he was super over the moon about it because I would ask him almost daily if I could give him one. Eventually I realized he never returned oral so I stopped offering as much, but I still blew him every time we had sex. And then eventually we stopped having sex. We went to therapy for it and conquered it, somewhat I think.

Recently, our sex life has started to get back to normal, but now my perspective on blowjobs are different. At the start of our relationship, it was because I wanted to give him as much pleasure as possible, and just because I liked it so much. But now, it’s almost therapeutic for me.

I lost my job two weeks before Christmas and after applying to 30+ jobs, I finally secured a part-time minimum wage job. I’ve done nothing but stay home, clean, and apply to every job known to man. And occasionally play RockBand for 6 hours straight. So by the time my boyfriend comes home, it’s like my brain has been deep-fried into a state of anxiety because throughout my day, I’m only thinking about my bills that need to get paid.

I want him to come home and use my mouth, basically. I want him to tell me to focus on nothing but him and his dick. I want him to essentially just use me for his pleasure, and give me a solid 30 minutes where I have literally nothing else to think about because I’m busy gasping and gagging for air. But my boyfriend has always been nervous of initiating, he has this pattern of only being able to become aroused after 11pm, and he’s also a sub. Like I mean a serious sub. I had to learn how to become a Mistress or else we weren’t going to have sex because he is essentially a guy version of a pillow princess.

So how do I ask him to start being more dominant? I just want him to use me. He knows what I’d like. We’ve had this conversation many times before. I guess I’m just looking for maybe the right way to ask him, so it clicks for him? I don’t want to have to use the Mistress card (ie “Your Mistress wants…”) because then it feels like he’s still the sub when I want to be the sub for once. How do I get him comfortable when being physical earlier than just when we’ve gone to bed?