Any other guys out there only get hard from stimulation? /u/hotmoistbeaver Sex

I’m in my 30s now and random boners just don’t happen anymore. The only way seems to be by touch.

My wife seems to think I can just “be hard when I want to” and doesn’t want to help, or do any foreplay, or pretty much anything other than lie there. So I’m kind of at a loss how I’m supposed to stoke the fire.

Anyone got suggestions?

Edit: I have tried numerous times to figure out what would be fun for her to try, or what she’d be willing to try, and have gotten nowhere. Just trying to talk about it makes her want it less, I think lol

I’m in my 30s now and random boners just don’t happen anymore. The only way seems to be by touch.

My wife seems to think I can just “be hard when I want to” and doesn’t want to help, or do any foreplay, or pretty much anything other than lie there. So I’m kind of at a loss how I’m supposed to stoke the fire.

Anyone got suggestions?

Edit: I have tried numerous times to figure out what would be fun for her to try, or what she’d be willing to try, and have gotten nowhere. Just trying to talk about it makes her want it less, I think lol