I have a really hard time orgasming with a partner, but it’s easy when I’m by myself /u/firstelfspectre Sex

I (27F) have a super hard time cumming with a partner. I don’t have any issues masterbating by myself though. The only times I’ve managed have been with a vibrator and it takes longer than by myself. My partners have been really good with foreplay and they have been very enthusiastic about giving oral. I can barely feel the oral or even when I try to finger myself. When I’m by myself I usually just use my hands and throw in the vibrator maybe 1/4 times. I think it’s a mental block more than physical but I don’t know how to get past it. During sex I have a hard time concentrating, getting distracted by either what’s going on in front of me or whatever happened that day. I’ve heard to not focus on the orgasm but I don’t really know how to do that. Any advice?

I (27F) have a super hard time cumming with a partner. I don’t have any issues masterbating by myself though. The only times I’ve managed have been with a vibrator and it takes longer than by myself. My partners have been really good with foreplay and they have been very enthusiastic about giving oral. I can barely feel the oral or even when I try to finger myself. When I’m by myself I usually just use my hands and throw in the vibrator maybe 1/4 times. I think it’s a mental block more than physical but I don’t know how to get past it. During sex I have a hard time concentrating, getting distracted by either what’s going on in front of me or whatever happened that day. I’ve heard to not focus on the orgasm but I don’t really know how to do that. Any advice?