Am I selfish for not masturbating in front of men I’m intimate with and I have no intention of ever doing it? /u/xsoftbunnyx Sex

I don’t like masturbating in front of anyone. I LOVE masturbating alone, and I do it daily. I look forward to it. I love watching porn, using my toys, and being intimate with myself. No audience, no expectations, just alone time fun. I like to keep it separate from my sex life.

Every man I have been with has wanted to see me masturbate. Either in person or on video. I don’t want to. Not because I’m shy or insecure, I just simply have no interest. Masturbating is for me. I have no plans to work on this “issue” either.

In the past I did try it, but I feel like the other person was always disappointed? I’m not vocal at all, I don’t moan, and all I do is let out some occasional sighs. If im not watching porn it takes me forever to finish. I also prefer to masturbate with my legs together instead of spread (might sound weird), so it’s not like they get a good view. I guess it’s not as exciting and porn like as most men expect. (BTW my past experiences are NOT the reason I don’t like doing it.)

Last night one of the men ive been seeing asked me to send him a video of me masturbating. I said no. I don’t have an issue with sending sexy videos, but not that kind. He said he hopes one day I’m comfortable enough to show him.. but it has absolutely nothing to do with my comfort. I’m just not interested. And yes I told him this.

I don’t like masturbating in front of anyone. I LOVE masturbating alone, and I do it daily. I look forward to it. I love watching porn, using my toys, and being intimate with myself. No audience, no expectations, just alone time fun. I like to keep it separate from my sex life.

Every man I have been with has wanted to see me masturbate. Either in person or on video. I don’t want to. Not because I’m shy or insecure, I just simply have no interest. Masturbating is for me. I have no plans to work on this “issue” either.

In the past I did try it, but I feel like the other person was always disappointed? I’m not vocal at all, I don’t moan, and all I do is let out some occasional sighs. If im not watching porn it takes me forever to finish. I also prefer to masturbate with my legs together instead of spread (might sound weird), so it’s not like they get a good view. I guess it’s not as exciting and porn like as most men expect. (BTW my past experiences are NOT the reason I don’t like doing it.)

Last night one of the men ive been seeing asked me to send him a video of me masturbating. I said no. I don’t have an issue with sending sexy videos, but not that kind. He said he hopes one day I’m comfortable enough to show him.. but it has absolutely nothing to do with my comfort. I’m just not interested. And yes I told him this.